Category Archives: Keepin’ it 150

22Jun/15
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A Letter to My Dad

Most men assume that girls need their mother. To some degree that is true but, dad where are you?

I really can’t know what boys I should or shouldn’t like or date because you are not around. What forces you to not be in my life. I’m grateful for my step-dad but don’t you at least want to see me grow up. Don’t you at least want to attend at least one of my games? The name that so many have given you is “deadbeat”. A deadbeat is a name that so many give to their parents when they don’t take of their children but I refuse to call you a deadbeat I will just assume that you are dead. I have to assume you are dead because surely no real parent would want to miss the majority of their child’s life on purpose. No not one! I know in the past you have been able to blame my mom for not answering her telephone for you, but know that I’m older and I’m able to answer calls and make phone calls now.. Please tell me what’s your excuse now dad?

Maybe I should re-introduce myself to you. Hello, my name is Zee and I’m your only daughter and I would like to meet you. I would like for you to be in my life again as a dad. Not only would I like to meet you I would like to see you at my school for parent-teacher meetings, father-daughter dances and others events that clearly you need a dad to attend. It’s an awkward feeling when you feel that your real father is your step-dad and the step-dad is the real father.

I’m not writing this letter just for my dad I’m writing this letter to all of the dads that think it’s okay for you not to call or visit your child or children. If you chose not to spend time with us, you can’t get upset your daughter get pregnant at an early age, get in trouble and etc. because we are products of you.

At this time, I would like to thank my father, my step-dad Mr. Kincaid for not only being a great example of what a father and friend should be. I want to thank you for taking me to doctors appointments when needed. I want to thank you for losing sleep and coming to my school for my games, career day and father-daughter doughnut day. You came my life when I was one and you are ultimately the only dad I know. Thank you for being a dad!

I AM Zee or Lady Zee is a teenage writer who writes about whatever is on her mind. She never holds back so some of the things she writes about will be controversial, but not meant to be disrespectful. She is currently a guest blogger on Womenwithgifts.com and her hobbies are hanging out with friends reading, cooking and traveling.

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18Jun/15
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What’s Trending with Women With Gifts: Pray With Us

Pray with us.. A lot of times when things get hard we tend to ask other people to pray for us which is perfectly fine, but it’s time that we stand up to our issues and pray over them. We, as believers have become too relaxed in asking and telling others to pray over our situations and we forget about the power that God has given us. Here’s two scriptures that proves that not only does God hear us when we pray he gives us the desires of our heart.

Psalm 37:4 Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. 

Proverbs 15:29 The Lord is far from the wicked, but he hears the prayer of the  righteous. 

In April 2014, myself and Women With Gifts started hosting our Monday Morning Conference Call prayer in order to reach other people, other women that needed prayer and was really going through something-like turmoil, trials, and tribulations. We pray EVERY SINGLE MONDAY rain, sleet or snow and even on holidays and we’ve done so for over a year.

We want to thank everyone in advance for joining us every Monday on our prayer conference call. This prayer is hosted by Women With Gifts and lead by our founder LaNette Kincaid but our prayer is NOT just for women. Our goal with this prayer is to heal our nation, build and encourage God people with emphasis on our women, and also take back the MONDAY that people have deemed to be the worst day of the week. Join our conference call prayer every Monday at 6am cst|7am est by calling 712-775-7400 access code 513886# ATTENTION: International callers are welcome to this call use this timezone converter in order to join our prayer at 6am cst.presenting (1)

Women With Gifts is an organization of that promotes women to use the gifts and talents that GOD has given them for survival.Our organization believes in leadership development, teaching and motivating others.Essentially, we are the products of the seeds we’ve sown. Growing Roses from a Briefcase is an inspirational motto we use that means we are believers and we have the ability to do anything that we put our minds to. Growing roses from a briefcase sounds difficult but “WE can do all things through Christ who strengthens US.” Philippians 4:13

Meet LaNette!

LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, that took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you will read in our magazine will come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s business and inspirational tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid

Click HERE to see our personal invitation video! Yes you are invited!

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18Jun/15
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Elevator experience

Recently, I was a guest at a really nice hotel in Houston, Texas. I was going to the 8th floor of the hotel and the gentleman standing behind me was going to the 12th floor which was the highest floor. elevator experience1 Now some of you may begin to think that the person I was on the elevator with was mean or snobby but he wasn’t. He was a very well dressed man, who knew where he was going and he didn’t treat me any different because I was getting off on the 8th floor and he was getting off on a higher floor. He was a real gentleman and he pushed the button for me and held the elevator doors as I got off.

I’ve been hearing  people say in the business world “stay in your lane”, but you never really hear these terms from the people that are already at the top of the “food chain”. Why?? I mean really you would think that If anyone should tell the smaller businesses to stay in their lane it should be the business owners that is at the top right? The more successful business owners -right? Wrong! The reason why you will never hear people like Oprah tell others in a similar professions as her to  “stay in their lane” because she is very secure in her lane. People that are secure in what they do are really too consumed in what they do to be concerned about smaller matters. So is your objective as a small business owner to stay in your own lane?

Let’s complete this exercise together:

Take a second or two to imagine you driving on a two lane road. It’s kind of small, not really a lot of options

Now take another two seconds to imagine being behind someone that is at a slower pace than you being directly in front of you. You can’t go around because there is oncoming traffic. So what do you do? You are painfully forced to sit behind this car and travel at their pace and their speed. This is what I imagine when someone tells someone to stay in their own lane..

Now imagine being on a 4 lane highway.. Now that you have more options let me ask you, does staying in one lane really make sense to you?

Did the term “stay in your lane” come from people or business owners that are insecure? Maybe so!

Another elevator experience 

This is a funny thought but it’s still in relation to my elevator experiences. Again I was in another hotel, although the hotel was nice it wasn’t as nice as the first hotel I had stayed in the previous week. As I waited for the elevator I noticed people racing to get closer to the door and also almost knocking people over to get on the elevator .In addition, they were in a rush to push the buttons on the elevator. At first, I thought wow they must be in a hurry. In addition, they didn’t hold the door open for me and they scrambled over who would push the elevator buttons to their floor. Why was it so important for someone to almost push someone over to get on the elevator? If we relate this experience to the business world, small business owners attempt to bully, copy or steal from other businesses because they are not confident in where they are or where they are going.

Here’s the real secret to entrepreneurs’ success: 

As I got on the second elevator, I immediately thought of the other upscale hotel with the piano in the lobby. Why was the person on the elevator in the upscale hotel so friendly? He knew that I was getting off on a lower level. Why didn’t that matter to him? Why didn’t he treat me differently as if I was beneath him? With both experiences I noticed two things: a person with confidence and people without confidence. The person whom I shared my first elevator experience wasn’t worried about rushing to elevator doors and wasn’t being rude and pushing his 12th floor button before me because he was confident in what he had and he knew it would be waiting on him. Having more CONFIDENCE is the lesson I learned from both of these elevator experiences. When you are confident in what you do as an entrepreneur there is no reason to restrict others to “their lane” because there is enough success for everyone.

Learn who you are as a person. Then learn the nature of your business and it’s purpose and grow. Then after you grow help others to grow.

Meet LaNette!

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LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, that took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you will read in our magazine will come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s business and inspirational tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid

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18Jun/15
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Entrepreneur Secrets: Facing your worst fears

Facing your fearsAs an entrepreneur I always have the opportunity to travel. Before you start to envy me I want to let you know that there is a good and bad side to traveling. The good side to traveling is being able to travel and earn money. On the other hand the bad side is having to trust either friends or the internet to give you great information on places to eat and sleep. Thus far I have to admit the internet hasn’t let me down.

Bad weather and ending up in unfamiliar places are the two things that I absolutely hate. I guess I can say that they are my worst fears. In other words I don’t like ending up in places where the area looks deserted. On my recent travel, not only was I faced with pouring rain but I took an exit per my GPS and the location looked a little weird to say the least. Potholes in the street, people walking around looking dazed, cars on the street looked to be either stranded or on flat. After telling me to take the wrong exit my GPS lost its signal. So here I was in the middle of nowhere land with rain pouring down and I didn’t have a signal for my phone or GPS. At that very moment I started to doubt myself. I started to ask myself did I select the right hotel. Do I really have to sleep in this place that I’m not really familiar with? Do I have to stay in this area tonight? I started to doubt my decision because I had drove close to four hours and I didn’t want to turn around and go home and just count my journey as a wasted trip.I started to second guess the whole journey only because I had made one wrong or because I took one wrong exit. Depending on how you look at it, this story can be a life lesson or a business lesson.

Here are the lessons I learned during my latest travel:

1) Always face your fears: My fears were driving in the rain and ending up in unfamiliar places. However the more I continued to to drive I noticed the rain eventually stopped and as I continued to drive, the place that was unknown became known. I’m not saying that owning a business is easy but eventually it gets easier than giving up.

2) Believe in yourself: Regardless of how small your business is you have to believe in yourself. You can’t sell anything effectively if you can’t sell YOU first. People have to believe in you first and then trust what you have to offer.

3) Never give up: Regardless of how bad your journey looks remember that the journey is not over until you reach your destination.  “Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is.” – H. Jackson Browne

Entrepreneur Richard Branson states, “Entrepreneurship requires a special kind of courage — you must face a great deal of uncertainty as you launch and maintain your business. The ability to recognize your fears, assess the causes and then make decisions about how to proceed can mean the difference between success and failure for a new company.”

Read more about “Facing you worst fears” HERE:

Meet LaNette!

LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, who took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you will read in our magazine will come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s business and inspirational tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid

 

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07Jun/15
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Enchanting Chromaticity

Born 1976 – Torie Jones a native of Jacksonville Florida, grew up loving art. Her passion for art began at a young age. As a child she was surrounded by art and music, along with the beauty of her family’s love of arts and crafting, which kept her interest in fine arts.    She is a motivated mother of three with nine years of experience in the entertainment industry. In various forms IE: management, promotions, and event planning. Now holding title of body artist. Her abstract style of original hand painting on bodies and canvas are straight from her imagination. After many years of drawing Torie moved to Atlanta Ga. and started painting with acrylic paint on canvas. She moved forward, experimenting with abstracts in various mediums. This pushed her to expand her horizons and tap into new areas of painting she had not yet explored. There was an obvious freedom and personal expression with abstraction and it was then that she really began to flourish. She was deeply interested in the effects of color, texture and the emotional response to strong composition and design. By removing the representational and creating something that told a story without an observational subject matter was very exciting. Today, Torie’s work is a bold mix of styles of art ranging from crafting to body art with not just using paint to the body. She brings a subtle and sophisticated feel to her paintings through a unique balance of color, composition and texture.

Artist Statement

“My primary goal when creating my abstracts is to breathe life into what I do. One of my practices is to make sure that I don’t stay locked up in the studio for too long. I get out and explore and try other forms of art for inspiration. This relates to new ideas and the ability to stay excited about what I do every day. As you can tell by my work, I like to create living emotion within my art.

My art is to leave you wanting more so that you may explore your own spirit and to be an inspiration to the next artist. Art can help us grow, heal our hearts, excite our senses and inspire new ideas. It’s one of the most valuable gifts in this world. Thank you for being a part of my journey………”

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Most artists use paint to express their artistic talents, color can soften the facial features, warm the skin tones and accentuate a person’s lifestyle and personality.

The laws of color state that out of all the colors in the universe, only three yellow, red and blue (called primary colors) are pure. This means, they cannot be created by the mixing of any other colors. Strangely, these primary colors can be mixed to create other hues. Hey, it’s the law of color and cannot be altered in any way. y76t542 IMG_20130929_190154

Be it hair, nails, make-up etc. Heck even an auto body shop must oblige. With that being said, if I must say myself this takes talent, skill, and pose to articulate. To balance one another without over powering one another becomes a mastered skill by the most streaming artist.

The Beauty industry in yesterday and today’s world has permanently been lucrative and productive. This brings to the discussion I compassed with a local artist out of Jacksonville, Florida. By the name of Torie Jones. She has a talent like I have never imagined. She dominates the law of color in such a way that is amazing. Here is her interview.IMG_0120

A: It is my pleasure Torie to have this session with you and overview artistic skill. I read your Bio, I found it fascinating. I saw your work, I think it’s extraordinary. My theory here is that you are not only artistic, yet brave, creative and bold. So, Torie outside of having an intense background in entertainment, art and music. What exactly prompted you to do this form of art?

T: Well looking back, it just fell into my lap. I was doing face paint with my kids and nephew’s and a friend of mine needed a portfolio for her make up to send to my other friend that was in need of a MUA for a photo shoot. I suggested to be different and give your portfolio some spice by adding face paint on one half and corresponding with make up on the other. We did and it was great. We showed off the work so we can do more for the portfolio. We found people interested but nervous, I mean they (adults) actually asked “would it hurt”? I had to think how I can make this a beautiful thing so I asked a few dancers if I could do a half body paint and take pictures. They agreed and it’s been on ever since.

A: normally, how long does it take you to completely cover an entire individual? I noticed that there is no stone unturned so- to- speak. They are completely covered and colorful.

T: When I first started I use to draw it out so that took a good hour, then painting was two hours. I started watching the Pro’s tutorials on the internet and found some techniques I learned to use just the paint brush and found my confidence. Needless to say my speed took off for a full body paint a little over an hour if I don’t go hard on details. I do get carried away with detailing.

A: Body art dates back over 5000 yrs ago. Many tribes and many cultures utilize body art as a way to express their civilization. I mean, I cannot tell you how many different cultures from ancient Egypt to Prisoners on the yard express themselves in this manner. I myself became fascinated by the Cherokee traditions once I became well informed of my ancestors and saw pictures of my Cherokee fifth generation Grandmother and her Husband. This prompted me to want to learn more about them. The Colors, the pattern, the Pow Wows were stimulating to me. What motivates you to do this? And when & where did you begin?

T: I have always been driven by culture of many, and myself having evident Seminole and other races running through my blood has me always in detective mode. Mostly health and art. I believe that’s why I am drawn to certain things in my life. Most of all I was raised with music of all types and with that helped my drive and passion for more than one art in my soul. Everything I do has passion and loyalty in it. So whether it’s poetry, writing, music, crafting, décor, painting, event planning, or whatever I will try next, I am dedicating my all to see the ending results.

Being a part of a family that was in the army, I was exposed to the art in all of the places traveled. They would bring back art and decor that would have me wanting to duplicate in a drawing. On both sides of my family I had a form of art. I’m sure this is why my art comes out more abstract because of keeping those images in my head for so long. So I would have to say it started for me as a little girl from the age of five. Growing up surrounded by my creative artsy family

A: Now, I understand that the Human body can be interesting and yet complicated. You are enhancing an already provocative configuration here. Have you or do you sometimes get uncomfortable painting these beautiful women? I mean, I imagine this becoming second nature to you after a while, is that correct?

T: Alicia, it’s funny that you ask. My first fully nude model was someone I grew up with that is considered family and the photographer was someone I had a huge crush on. So can we say awkward for the first twenty minutes of painting? I mean this model has an outstanding body ..this was the only way I’d want to see her naked and this photographer has to look at her and my mind is going wild, like is this really happening? But I picked these people because she has always been artsy and open about her art. The photographer and I have always wanted to work together. The Opportunity was there so once my design got in my head … let’s just say the rest is history in the making!

A: What is the proper term to use when verbalizing what you do? Body Painting, Temporary tattooing, tell me what to call this?

T: Body art, Body painting, and temporary tattooing are all great words to describe this because some people identify it differently. Most of the time I have to tell them what I am using so they don’t get it mixed up with real tattooing. Reassuring them that this washes off with soap! Lol

A: Have you ever incorporated men in your work?

T: Yes indeed Alicia

A: (Smiling) Are they Nude?

T: Oh yes… A few have, but in my town I don’t get many fully nude like I’d like to lol. It’s challenging for me here in my hometown. It is so different keeping my designs manly because I have so many female designs and most of my work is freestyle and all my work is free handed, so what comes out … comes out. I see my work as sexy and seductive. So my preference is Adult body art.I usually can connect with my model and the design that is freestyle usually seems custom made to fit their personality, nothing planned that way.. it just comes out as synergy.

A: Again the first thought that came across my mind was BOLDNESS. It takes heart and creativity not to mention patience and a steady hand lol to master this. I commend you for your endeavor and I thank you for sharing your colorful world with Enticing Resultz Magazine. Inform our faithful readers how they may keep track of you. ERMAG is huge on networking and we strongly believe in gravitating one another. So do tell, which social media and websites can we find you Torie? The social sites are

T: Instagram (where you see all my latest work) – @Perfect_Canvas

Facebook – Torie A Jones & Hot Talk Radio Jacksonville

Linked In- Lady Torie

Call me for your next fantasy photo shoot with body art at (904-600-6031)

                             

Columnist/ Enticing Resultz Magazine

Alicia “Tha Highlander”

Born Alicia Dinera` Williams, a name that her only Biological Paternal Aunt had given her, Alicia was born and raised in the city of Highland Park, Michigan in 1978 by both her parental units. In Highland Park, Michigan is where she began a career in mental health in which she became certified by the State of Michigan Department of community health as a Social Worker Technician. Through much hardship, but still determined, Alicia had always had a loyal heart for trichology (the science of Hair). Through multiple career changes, she not only went to Cosmetology School, she had also become a school bus driver and tax preparer for Liberty Tax out of River Rouge, Michigan; and later a Paralegal. She realized that even with her Children’s ages ranging from 19, 10, and 6 it was not too late for her to spread her wings and soar. As a columnist for Enticing Resultz Magazine, Alicia has had the opportunity to collaborate with many faces much like her journey in life.

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07Jun/15
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Do You Too Need A Total Life Change – What’s Your Plan?

Part I

1 Corinthians 6:19 [NIV]

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;

 

 

It has long been stated in numerous ways that man in his essence is a “spirit” who has a “soul” and lives in a “body.” This much we also know, according to John 4:24, God is a Spirit and like Father, like children! This is to say, in agreement with the teaching of Genesis 1:27, that God created man in his own image and likeness. So then, since we are spirit, what do we do with these bodies? These ‘earth suits?’ These ‘earthen vessels?’ These ‘clay containers?’

 

In the ‘body’ of Christ today we see a lot of emphasis placed on the spiritual realm and so we should. After all and again, spirit is who we are in the very core of our beings. Yes, we are undoubtedly spiritual beings and in this fact, we have an undeniable likeness with the God of creation who scooped up the earth’s dust and blew his breath into his created master piece to make us living souls.

So then, our God consciousness, an awareness of the fact that both God our creator and we his creation are spirit is something that should always be critically important. Next to that priority however, is the understanding of our consciousness with ourselves and the world around us. This is what takes place in the realm of our souls. PASTER MEL-1Our soul gives us our mental reasoning and our emotional powers. If the soul of a man was his glory then his spirit would be his crown. Lastly, as is commonly known, it is our bodies though, that gives us the ability of our five known senses of sight, hearing, taste, touch and smell. It is our physical bodies then [our outer shell, the temporary home we live in] that we are able to connect with the physical world around us to enjoy the everyday lives we live. Like it or not; this is the biblical order and arrangement of things concerning man in his place on earth.

Yet most Christians today, as critical as it is to place a significance on the lives we live in the spirit and even in the realm of the soul; we often do so at the exclusion or the expense of our bodies. In other words, it is far too common place for those who follow Christ, as I do, to treat our spirits or even souls as holy and sacred to God but then to still treat our bodies in ‘any kind of way!’

Tragically though, God’s word reminds us that our bodies are His temple and are to be treated as such; we literally exercise very little restraint if any in how we treat our bodies! Shout ‘

amen if you know I’m telling the truth c’mon now you don’t have to be a pastor, preacher or bible scholar to see that there is a great gap between how God tells us to take care of our bodies and how we really do. In fact, I’m sure that many of the same folk in ministry leadership that you know have even developed a habit of trashing their bodies with the idea that this is spiritually acceptable to God. I tell you “The devil is a lie!”

C’mon now! To do ministry, you need a body! It doesn’t matter how well you preach, teach or anything else; once you destroy your body; you can’t be there to help anyone else; game over! The problem is that we are not nearly as wholistic in our lifestyles as we ought to be. We tend to compartmentalize certain areas and master them while neglecting the others! Here is where the question must be raised; isn’t God concerned about your Total Life? Is he only concerned about a portion of it or all of it? Surely prayer is important and even essential but is prayer really the “total answer” if you are still going to trash your body with all kinds of drugs, poisons, toxins and unhealthy foods that do everything from increase the likelihood of you getting high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease or a stroke? Aren’t we putting the cart before the horse in merely pretending to be spiritual about something we need to be a bit more self controlled and practical about according to the knowledge that God has told us to live by?

I don’t know about you but my eyes are now wide open to living with a respect not only for spiritual things or things that effect the deep places of my soul but I can also now see and respect the need for me to take the care of my body! Yes … I know I won’t live in this body forever but while I’m here; I need this thing to work right! I want it to get up when I say get up! I want it to go when I say go! I want my energy to last through the day without me feeling like I have crashed and burned out by 4 o’clock and truth be told, all of these desires will require some changes in my life. So, I’ve decided to be intentional about the changes I needed to make because no good thing will happen by accident.

Keep in mind, like some of you, I was already on track with my spiritual foundation in Christ. I have also learned through habit to be extremely passionate about implementing the soul care I need in my life. This is why I invest time with my mentors, coaches, family and close friends that help me to stay rooted and grounded.   In addition to that, I was so incredibly blessed just a few weeks ago implementing some more of my soul care strategy; spending a few days of quiet, solitude at Galveston beach again to help restore my soul from my often demanding schedule. It always does wonders for your soul; unplugging from my normal flow of life and sitting still and quiet for a few days is an exercise a few times each year! If you haven’t tried it, I highly recommend it to you.

 

Finally however, I have just one other recommendation. I’ve also started to make some a physical changes to allow for the Total Life Change that I had been taking for granted and missing out on for decades.

Now thank God, after making these simple changes, my energy is back up like it was more than 10 years ago! Not only that but by extra weight is steadily declining. I’m especially enjoying the detox that takes place every time I sip my cup of tea. Yes, praise God, I now have everything it takes to enjoy a Total Life Change. The truth is that we all need a Total Life Change in one way or another.

So, what are you doing for your spiritual growth and development? Is your foundation built on Christ? Surely, he is my chief corner stone. What strategies and plans do you have in place to impact the deep places in your soul? What is that you are doing regularly that restores your soul? Finally, are you taking good care of your temple or are you taking your body for granted; pushing it way past its set boundaries?

Remember, man is a spirit that has a soul but he lives in a body. It’s time to take care of ALL of YOU; not just a part. You need a TOTAL LIFE CHANGE.

 

Mel Keyes, native Brooklynite is the pastor of  The Joshua House of Worship, a multi-cultural and multigenerational congregation located on the west side of San Antonio, Texas. He’s been married to the lovely Kendra Keyes for twenty five years, with three children and two grandchildren. He is a graduate of The Baptist University of the Americas and Dallas Baptist University. He is the author of Hell To The Know, How To Get From The Hell You’re Living In To The Life You Were Meant To Live.” Mel is also the founder of Joshua Generation Radio.org. as well as his life coaching practice “ Master Keyes Coaching & Consulting.” Determined to build his life on vision, Mel lives his life around three core principles of his personal vision for Ministry, Entrepreneurship & Leadership:

To passionately serve God, my family, friends and others around me through strong, loving, disciple making MINISTRY.

To empower army’s of disciples through life transforming ENTREPRENEURSHIP.

To change the world around me through learning and practicing Christ centered, servant LEADERSHIP.

 

www.pastormelkeyes.com

info@pastormelkeyes.com

(877) KEY-2382

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14May/15
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Say What You Want to…..I’m Beautiful

 

Say what you want to, but I’m a girl with class, a little pizzazz. I’m a bounty of beauty, never once settling for less. I’m a woman with edge…….

Beauty was once something that I thought could only be attained with some rouge, eye shadow, and lipstick. What I can tell you is that beauty is more than skin deep. More than hair. Life can be difficult, but only when the cards that you are dealt are not played with stealth and delight. Enjoy the process, ride the wave.

I love the boldness of the young women, the fire and passion. Daring to be different, the colors, the styles. If there is one thing that I would like to see, balance. Balance is something that requires a connection. Alignment, an evenness, proportion. Not the balancing of beauty and brains. Balance of responsibility and power. Power of worth. The power of a beautiful intelligent woman. The strength of a woman that knows her worth without overbearing cynicism of independence. The beauty in knowing that interdependence is something that is needed, yearned for, a must. It’s the silent cry that men want, our children need, and the world is missing. It’s ok to be “every woman”, just don’t forget your purpose. The mental anguish and inner demons, the threshold that harbors the thoughts of the past, may be responsible for most lacking the intimacy and compassion for oneself, let alone anyone else. Say what you want to, but, it is the underlying current of hatred that is leading our nations. The desire to be perfect has become synonymous with power. The desire to be the best has been confused with being the best “you” that you can be. It’s the driving force that causes many to work endlessly to provide a materialistic future for generations, but forfeit the ability to nurture your own children. “That has what to do with beauty?”, you might ask. It has everything to do with it. In my opinion Too much of anything, excess, abundance is not always good. Too much of a good thing can cause a disconcerting effect, such as an overabundance of bad can cause disaster. Hence the term “too good to be true,”

Beauty by definition:

1: the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit :  loveliness……..

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Beauty by definition:

Beauty is a thing seldom seen. It is held by all within the soul it lies, waiting to come out to the surface, but it can only be found if someone is sharing your soul with you. Beauty is suppressed by the evils of the world. Only love can bring beauty out. Once seen, beauty never hides again. Not even hatred can deny beauty of it’s true design. Beauty, although possessed by all by few and fewer yet will ever see one of the most beautiful sights – the beauty held by you.

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Say what you want to….I’m beautiful…..

 

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Side Hustle: Starting a business while in college

As college students, if each of us were totally honest with ourselves, we can admit to having several talents inside of us that would potentially make us all millionaires. Sadly, a lot of those talents are suppressed because students must choose between earning a degree or starting a small business. Being a college student and an entrepreneur is not overly hard if you stick with what you love or what you have experience in.

Being a good college student is very time consuming, so I wouldn’t suggest starting an IBM type business while in college unless you have the manpower and money to support this venture. However, I do suggest starting a very small business that incorporates hobbies or duties that you can complete with the greatest of ease. If you bake favorites for other students and they think you cooking is to die for then you should consider baking cookies and other favorites as a start-up business. It is possible that your business would be successful because it’s something that you love.

Here’s some tips to consider when starting a business as a college student:

  • First, consider what type of business you want to start and how much money you will need to start a business. Remember the ultimate goal with starting a business while in college is to gain money and not lose it. So be realistic with your choices.
  • Once you have a business type and business name in mind, remember to register your business with your local authorities. Pending on tax laws in your state you will also need to file for a tax-id as well.
  • After you take the necessary steps to register your business per your state requirements then you’ll need a business checking account. You are able to use your documents from state registration to open the account. My suggestion is to open an account with a bank that offers free checking or provides a rebate to open a business account.
  • Now that your business is all set and ready to make money, don’t forget to market your business to those close to you such as friends, family, or classmates. For the first six months attempt to use free products and services for your business. Using this method will give you the opportunity to become more comfortable as a business owner without losing money in the process. Don’t be afraid to recruit friends, family or classmates as employees or interns. Remember your classmates may need money too.

As a new business owner, these companies may come in handy:

Vista Print

Small Business Administration

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Webs.com or GoDaddy.com

Remember as your business grows you should grow with it to be more professional.

If you could start a business today, what type of business would it be?

LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, that took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you read in our magazine will come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid

 

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15Mar/15
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Behind The Scenes Of the I Survived Gospel Concert

MakeoversRecently, Women With Gifts presented the I Survived Gospel Concert on Saturday, March 7,2015. Women With Gifts is an organization for women that Women With Gifts is an organization of women using their gifts and talents that GOD has blessed them with. Our organization believes in leadership development, teaching and motivating others. One of the reasons that we, Enticing Resultz Magazine is so involved with this event because we were abled to be sponsors of this event. Since the event was organized by LaNette Kincaid ,we not only wanted an exclusive interview about the event itself, but we also wanted more of a behind the scenes account of the event as well. Here’s a detailed interview about 2015 I Survived Gospel Concert.

ER: What is the purpose for the I Survived Gospel Concert?Dunbar Choir

LK: Ultimately, ISGC is a concert and movement to allow survivors to have a platform to tell about the issues that they have experienced in regards to breast cancer, domestic violence, and sexual abuse. In addition, it was created to bring survivors and “pre-survivors” in one place. Pre- Survivors are people wanting to be in a survival state but they are not quite at the survivor stage yet. Gospel music heals the soul unlike other music genres that put you on a superficial high for a brief moment. So with you put the two together the concert was born.

ER: What surprised you about this event?

LK:I must say I was shocked about the survivors that came out to support the event. I’m also shocked by the people who randomly told me their survivor stories and they don’t know me, but they feel safe telling about their experience. I didn’t want to say anything about this but, I was also shocked that this event didn’t gain the exposure of major news outlets. I just knew that the public and the community would want to know about something positive happening in the city and state besides crime.

Another shocker was when I received an inbox the week of the event telling me that reality show “I Can Only Be Me” was going to not only attend the event but they would be filming certain parts of the show. I was totally shocked by that. I even cried!

ER: Why is it so important for ISGC to get media coverage or exposure?

LK: Media exposure for this event is important because sexual abuse and domestic abuse is now considered to be more of an epidemic or a pandemic in our society. Notice I used words that we normally use when speaking about diseases, but that the affect that these two abuses are taking on society. I mean really our children can’t even attend school anymore without hearing that their teachers are having sex with their peers. In addition we hosted this event at Paul Laurence Dunbar High School in Fort Worth, Texas. Although Dunbar is a great school with great educational programs on the inside, on the outside of the school everyone has branded this area as Stop Six-a community known for poverty and gang violence. With that being said, when something bad happens in the community media outlets are right on the scene reporting these horrific incidents. Why not report when the school is involved in something positive. By the way the school and the community has made great improvements by based on the lack of media coverage no one really knows that.

ER: What did you like most about the event?

LK: The overwhelming amount of support and the survivors telling their story at this event.. Their stories would start somewhat sad but end on a triumphant note. One thing that stuck with me even after the event is an example that Evangelist Patsy Cole used she compared experience of sexual abuse and being molested as a child to an olive being crushed and bruised but still producing oil. That comparison was so real for me. As survivors we all have gone through something, but we are still standing. Her statement was so profound. Afterwards each honoree was presented with a gift from the Chief Of Police, Rhonda Robertson. Granted, anyone could have given the honorees the gifts but it meant something for them to receive such honor from Fort Worth’s Chief of Police.

ER: Tell us about the performers and why they were selected for the ISGC.Nicole Lashaun Ministries Chozen Tx

LK: First let me say that I when I first started this process I wasn’t looking for any superstars that would think they were larger than this vision or larger than the purpose of the event itself. The full purpose of this event is about the survivors- this is their platform.Gwen GiGi Gray DSC_0251

Each of the performers brought something major to this event.

In start, New Generation and Minister R. L. Taylor & The Sons Of The Father were selected for lovers of traditional down home quartet gospel music.

Spirit of David and Nichole Lashaun is for lovers of great choir songs and also praise and worship music. Nichole Lashaun is also a preachers kid that leads and teaches vocal lessons. She recently performed at a gospel concert at The House of Blues.

Christian rapper and minister, I am Justified and quartet group Chozen were both selected for the youth, hip generation.

Gwen Gi Gi Gray is a jazz gospel singer and besides her being able to sing , I wanted her to be the example of the current Dunbar students and people of the Stop- Six District. Gwen is a Dunbar alumni who has a successful singing career. Her performance was followed a short motivational speech by Coach Robert Hughes Sr.-retired Dunbar Basketball coach, who led Dunbar to 35 state championships and 5 national championships. Lekisha Earles was referred to me by my prayer partner Pastor Clara Peters and when I heard her voice and read her bio I was sold on her being a part of the show. At the time, I had no idea that she was a cast member of I Can Only Be Me Reality Show. Last but not least, Dunbar High School Choir and band performed at our concert which was truly a bonus to the concert.

ER: If you could you change anything about the ISGC what would it be??

LK: It’s without saying that this concert could’ve use some tweaking. I Survived Gospel Concert was my first production of this magnitude. In addition to this being my first big production, I want to add that I wasn’t able to truly start planning until I received a final approval from the school district to host this event at their school. We didn’t get that approval until December of 2014. So in essence, I only had 4 brief months to pull everything together. I didn’t have a do-over button so I couldn’t change anything. I only want to take the experience from March 7,2015 and make 2016 I Survived Gospel Concert better.

Although I wouldn’t change the performers we had, I do want to clarify that this event is for African-Americans. The ISGC platform is for anyone who can really sing. It is also our goal to connect with more organizations to meet the needs of our survivors and pre-survivors.

ER: What do you expect from future ISGC events?

LK:I am striving for nothing but the best with these events. My ultimate goal with this event is to reach both survivors and “pre survivors” and eventually mend the gap between the two. In other words this event will be the platform as well as a healing ground for the people who have had battles with breast cancer or the experiences of sexual abuse and domestic violence. In saying that, I also want to reach families who have lost loved ones to these causes. I may be a tad spoiled but since our first show had a reality show involved I would love to keep the reality show present. That was pretty cool.

ER: What was the greatest experience of the ISGC this year?

LK: Meeting all of the performers and honorees and it was just like a big family reunion I picked up LaRonda Humphrey, one of the honorees who travelled from New Orleans and we talked for hours like we were sisters. I loved our sponsors that helped with the vision.

I loved seeing the honorees get makeovers from Chalkface Inc. Seeing some of the artists get makeovers before performing and having sound check put this production on another level. I kept thinking, “wow God this is serious”.

ER: What were some of the shows setbacks?

LK: When I first talked to my prayer associate Pastor Clara Peters about my plans with the show, she warned me to be prepared for setbacks of the show . She also warned me to always have a plan B.

Here were some of the setback of ISGC:

Host of the show

First host cancelled because I didn’t send the hotel reservation via email within the time they expected Not making excuses but during this same time my aunt passed and my brother was in the hospital. I didn’t communicate that to the host because I wanted to keep my personal life separate from planning

After finding another host for the show beyond our control, we lost the host in a split second. Dunbar High School is an older high school and wheel chair accessibility hasn’t been updated for the auditorium’s stage. Our host needed to be able to host from the stage and there was not a way our production or school could make that happen. Although I was really disappointed about that situation, I had to remember that things like this was one of the reasons for ISGC to give back to the school. A portion of the proceeds from the ticket sales were donated back to Dunbar High School. On a better note about the host and co- host of the ISGC, we landed Pastor Mel Keys of J Radio, author of Joshua Generation “Hell To The Know” and pastor of Joshua Generation and Tessa Allen from spotlight radio show in Houston . What a pair they were amazing!

My Health

In January 2014, I got extremely sick I thought I was dying. Turns out I was food poisoned, but this illness lead to other findings in my health. Not only was I severely anemic, I had two tumors on my ovaries. So to fast forward I finally decide to have surgery in October of 2014 to have issues corrected.. So I was contacting potential artist in October praying that they would stay on board while I recuperated from my surgery.

Mother Nature

Two weeks before the event the weather in Texas was a mess, just horrible. my plans were to be like a street team type of marketing right before the show. It was ice everywhere! Only in Texas will it freeze one day and the sun shining the next day. I love my state!

Untrustworthy People

People who pretended they really wanted to be a part of the vision. People who lied about ticket sales, people who lied about graphics we needed and couldn’t meet the dead line. People, People, People…..and I literally could go on about this all day. In saying ,all this about the negative. God really turned the negatives into positives. I’m grateful for that. Although these things sound horrible I actually laugh at how God still blessed and improvised throughout every circumstance.

OUR TICKETS:

Our tickets weren’t really a setback, but I wanted to mention them because all I cared about was how cute and professional the tickets were. I mean really these tickets looked as if you were going to superstar type concert and I didn’t realize until the week of the event that they didn’t have a time on them. Oopsie!

ER: What were the overall highlights of the show

LK: My mother was one of the honorees of the show. We also had a moment of silence for our host, Pastor Mel’s mom who he lost in December of 2014. That was huge!! Our show started to the beats of the Dunbar band which shocked everyone. Even me! I must say that Dunbar’s band and choir is one of the most talented in FWISD.

ER: Any one last minute thoughts?

LK: Yes, Thank you to Mr. Carlos Walker, the principal of Paul Lawrence Dunbar High School. It is very hard trying to keep religious functions in our schools and I thank him for allowing and approving the ISGC to take place at this school. I will never forget him for that. Thanks to my 13 year old Lady Zee she actually turned into a beast to market and promote my events and then after their over she turns back into a cute little book worm. Hugs and love to everyone for your love and support.

I tried to post all of our highlights on every social media network possible so please follow us at #ISurvived2015   or @ISurvived2015

ER: What advice would you give people creating an event or production ?

LK: Have a back-up plan for everything. Play in your mind as a perfect event , then you wipe your mind clean and replay your event again. The second time be sure to include possible disasters. Don’t trust everyone.. Don’t’ assume that everyone wants you to have a successful event.

Don’t give up !Don’t get distracted ! Turn off the phone, turn off the social media, 1 month,1 week before the event. You will love yourself for it. Stay focused on your event!

LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, that took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you will read in our magazine will come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid

 

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How to Avoid Work Place Drama

Regardless of whether you work a 9-5 job or start a business as an entrepreneur we all know it is very hard to fit in or deal with certain people. In every environment setting there’s always someone you work with or attempt to work with that feel like they know it all, will do anything in efforts to get to the top or they do nothing but blame others for their shortfalls. So here’s the big question, what do you do to fit in with people who ultimately suck?

Absolutely nothing. Never attempt to fit into an environment that goes against your morals, integrity or beliefs. Also in this particular situation don’t use the advice of the old saying if you can’t beat them join them because you will only look stupid in the process.

Instead of attempting to fit in with co-workers or markets that suck. Try these tips: First Be genuine. Continue to be loyal to who you are. When all else fails other co-workers, bosses and clients will always appreciate being around people they can could on to be the genuine daily. Plus if you own a business, your brand and your clients need and deserve that. Second Always work with people who motivate, support and appreciate your ideas. This concept works across the board of working within corporate America or being self-employed. Third As an entrepreneur remember that you’re the boss for a reason. So only work for free when you want to not because others don’t value the price tag you put on your services. Fourth Positive environments creates positive outcomes. In any given situation, attempt to be positive. Creating a positive environment will sometimes deter people from being negative or being someone that they are really not. Lastly NEVER SETTLE Always strive to be your best and with doing so you will attract great people in the process-most of the time.

Here’s more tips for strictly for entrepreneurs:

Entrepreneur Secrets: Stop and Smell the flowers

We’ve all heard the cliché’ stop and smell the “roses” or flowers. The old saying stop and smell the roses has a whole different meaning for me. I remember when I started my business 4 years ago I was super excited about the business and since it was my business I wanted to go over and beyond for the business in order to make sure it didn’t fail. Or at least my thought was I didn’t want to fail my business. Although I was doing a lot with the business my business was all over the place literally and wasn’t even organized. I remember my cousin messaging me and asking how I was doing. Before I could message her about myself, I instantly started to talk about my recent business trips and my latest business trips. I was too excited to share the latest business hoopla with someone.

After going on and on via message about my business my cousin simply wrote back and said, “don’t forget to stop and smell the flowers”. I looked at the message and thought that maybe I had bored her and she didn’t want to hear about all the business non-sense and I didn’t even think twice about her message. It wasn’t until today I was cleaning out my Facebook messages and her message to me reappeared, “stop and smell the flowers”. Lisa died less than a month after she sent that message and after being in for four years I learned that nothing is more important telling a person you love them. I never knew when Lisa me her message to me about business that it would be her last. I never knew expected that my last message to her would be about business garbage. I attempt to laugh through my pain, but nothing I sent her that night about business was more important than life itself.

Here’s my advice to the old me and some of the new entrepreneurs in our society… Stop and smell the flowers! Take time for yourself and your family. Make some memories. It’s somewhat sad that it took four years for my cousin’s message to finally soak in, but Lisa I finally got it.

LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, that took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you will read in our magazine will come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid

 

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Columnist/ Enticing Resultz Magazine

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