Monthly Archives: May 2014

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How your body loses its weight.

     This isn’t a short cut guide but more so an overview. You can’t get around needing basic math especially when it comes to dieting. So let’s have a crash course in metabolic math.

     There are 3500 calories in 1 pound of fat. The way you lose a pound of fat per week is to figure out how many calories you are eating per day and decreasing that by 500 cals and then burning 500 cals extra. So if you are eating 2500 cals a day, start eating 2000 cals a day plus burning an extra 500 cals in that day doing exercises and eating certain foods. You now have a net loss of 1000 cals, that is your calorie deficit. I know it appears to be difficult but it is real simple. You lose weight by consuming less food (calorie energy) than what you are using. Your body uses food as energy hence the meaning of Eating to live, not living to eat. So when your body has excess calories because it can’t burn them the body stores that energy as fat. The fat accumulates overtime and becomes pounds of fat.

     So what do you have to do? Eat more energy containing foods: dark greens, spinach, kale, greens, broccoli, nuts, and seeds. Eat more fruits: strawberries, bananas, oranges, apples, watermelon, grapes, pineapples, grapefruits. Drink more water, at least 60 ounces of day should be pure water. The key to losing weight is more of what you put in your body than working out. Working out will help your body look good but it can’t do anything if your body is missing key nutrients like protein, good carbs, and good fats. Your muscles look for these things when they are starting to grow. Think of yourself as a flower. If you don’t get enough water, sun, oxygen and other gases from the Earth you won’t grown. If you get too much of those things you will grow and die. But, if you get the right balance you will grow into a beautiful flower providing nectar for the bees and a pleasant scent for people to smell as they walk by.

Brandi N Anderson


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The Measure of a Calorie

     A pound of fat is about 3500 calories. In order to lose weight you have to create a calorie deficit in your body. If you burn a lot of calories during your workout but go home and eat the wrong foods or in fact, consume more calories than what you burned, you will not lose weight. There will come a time when you have to eat more calories than you burn but that is body building and other forms of sculpting that I can share later. But you want to get to a point where your metabolism is working in your favor when you are sitting and eating you want to still be burning calories.

      Some people can safely lose 1 to 2 lbs a week giving you a about 4 – 8 lbs weight loss in a month. Others can lose 10 – 20 lbs in a month given there muscle and fat percentage. If you have more fat percentage, then the chances of you losing a higher amount of weight in a month is greater of course if your metabolic rate is in a normal to high range. Creating a lifestyle change that involves healthier food choices daily and a decent active lifestyle can help you reach your weight loss goals.

     Try going meatless twice a week and eating more dark green veggies, fruits, and if you can, eat cheese on those meatless days. The fiber, protein, fats, carbs and other nutrients you get from these foods will begin to clean your system out and once you do this on a regular basis you will see changes in your body.

Brandi N Anderson


Brandi N Anderson

Obtaining your God-Given Vision!


When God gives you a vision, sometimes it is hard to notice that it is from God.  The reason behind this is due to the fact that when God gives you a vision it is usually too big for you to conceive what you are to accomplish.  But do we not serve a God who provides our every need according to His will?  If you believe this then know that the vision that God has given you can’t be completed without Him and He doesn’t expect you to complete it on your own.  You have to realize that He chose you as a vessel to complete this vision for your life.  This great thing that He has placed in your heart to do will not only play a part in building His kingdom but it will also be the one thing that He will constantly use to provide and supply all your needs including your desires.  When we walk in obedience to God we are willfully submitting to His will. We are saying to God that I don’t want to do it may way any longer. I want to do it your way.

I want to live in this vision that you have for my life, I want you Oh Lord to order my steps so that I may be a smile upon your face (Psalm 37) Our visions are predestined and are set for a particular time.  God will reveal that time to you and you will know it. However, we must first submit ourselves to believing that we are purposed for this life and He does have a plan for it.  Even if you don’t fully understand what the Lord is doing in your life, especially if you have falling on hard times and you are at the end of your ropes, just continue to pray and believe God for all things.  Thank Him for a sound mind and for the peace that is coming your way.

Thank Him for being that right on time God and ultimate provider to those who love and trust in Him. (Philippians 4:19) Once you submit yourself to God, all the things that you have gone through, the trials and tribulations that you have survived will all become vividly clear, the purpose of it all will work for the vision He has placed in your heart. God Will Provide! Jehovah-jireh (The Lord will provide) So call on Him and have that unshakable faith when the time comes to grow your vision.

When you are in the place that God wants you to be, the favor of God will be on your life and the impossible will be made possible through God, the obedience to His word.  If God is with you then you can make it through any circumstance.  If you are in a place where you believe God has given you a vision, I want you to write that vision down so that who reads it may run with it forever, and ever not stopping for anything.  That reader is you!  It is the vision that God has given you so you write it down for yourself and you run with it. How will you know it is a God given vision? 2 kings 2:9-10… The vision will be so clear to you that it will look like you are seeing it in real time with your eyes.


Obtaining your vision!

      It must be clear not cloudy, no doubts, it will be clear.  You must run (pray) to receive it.  Pray about this vision constantly. Pray for all things concerning the vision. You must have faith!!! The vision may not come to past right away but your faith is key when in waiting. So wait for the appointed time for the vision to come to past.  God will provide revelation pertaining to your vision in the meantime.  All things that He will provide you will add up to the completion or realization of the vision He gave to you.

Brandi N Anderson



Free Time

     What I have learned throughout my dating life is that everyone deserves free time.  A time where you go out with a friend or two.  A time where you visit your family or a time when you are alone watching a movie or reading a book.  I have also learned that men and women treat this free time differently.  Some  feel as though that if they give their mate too much space they will cheat.  People will find a cheat, even if you see him 7 days a week.  You have to trust that your mate is where they said they will be and that they will call you or come home at the time.  If they don’t then you are well within your right to question them a bit, give them a chance to explain and if the answer is acceptable, patch things up and start again.

     We need balance in everything we do.  In a relationship, both parties should want to spend time with their loves and also a little time apart from each other. You each have your own friends and families that you had before your mates.  Of course you will have times to share your friends and families with each other but that doesn’t have to be every time you link up with them.  If your mate is spending more time being out and about than seeing you then yes, you have a problem.  But if your mate is busy with work or school.  Talk to them and figure out a plan that will suit the both of you for togetherness.

If you live with your mate then ask if you could be a part of what they are doing at least once a week.  Taking a vested interest in each other is something that can lead to a very strong relationship.  Also, if they are extremely busy working on a project…find you some business.  You become busy yourself.  Just as your curiosity blossomed when they became busy, so will theirs.  You need a hobby, something of your own that you can share with your mate. Don’t be threaten by the want for free time.  It is a natural way for us all to center ourselves.  You should never want to lose yourself inside someone else. You both have interesting stories to share.


Late Night Tip:

     Gentlemen, if you bring your work home a great deal to the point where you barely have time to enjoy the nice meal she prepared for you, this is a slow death of your relationship.  Give your lady at least 2 hours of your time.  She will be grateful for it and leave you to your work after you two have spent some time together.  Women need their emotional needs met as well as that physical touch.  When a good woman cheats it is usually due to the above reasons, a lack of intimacy.  So don’t neglect her in your quest for success.  You want her standing right next to you right?

Brandi N Anderson




Au Naturel (Short Story)

Shanell Monique LogoMy purpose  was designed for a purpose….as I sat in the mirror looking at my long locs, I couldn’t help but imagine, how my life should be. I am a 14th generation loc wearer. This tradition has been passed down from my great great great great,..well you get the point. The moral of this story is that women in my family have been wearing locs for a long time. We are not Rastafarians or even Jamaican. In fact our past history doesn’t really include locs at all, maybe some form of plaits that eventually, but not intentionally  turned into locs, due to lack of maintenance. Women in my family; most of them don’t even own a comb. It has been noted that strength was in the hair. I think they got that out of the Bible somewhere, from Samson. The traditional locs or dreadlocks can be defined as a natural hairstyle in which the hair is twisted or braided into long matted or ropelike locks, and was made popular by Rastafarians. Rastafarians are defined as a (1) Member of a political and religious movement among blacks in Jamaica and several other countries. Rastafarians worship Haile Selassie, considering him the messiah. They believe that blacks are the Israelites reincarnated, who have been subjected to the evil and inferior white race in divine punishment for their sins; they will eventually be redeemed by repatriation to Africa and will compel the whites to serve them. These beliefs, first enunciated in 1953, can be traced to several independent prophets, particularly Marcus Garvey. As the movement grew, ideas of repatriation tended to give way to either black militancy or mysticism. The Rastafarian life usually includes vegetarianism, the wearing of dreadlocks, and the smoking of marijuana.

I can hear grandma now, “Don’t put that creamy crack in your hair chile…don’t no MAN  want no bald headed woman” .  I used to wonder what my grandma meant by that statement. It took me years of  research from other’s demise. I saw young girls  in high school that I grew up with, most of them had beautiful natural hair; just to get gassed up later on to “relax” it.  After all, who wants a “nappy-headed woman”? Relaxed hair?, it seemed to be the girls with straight hair that boys and young men went for.  It didn’t matter how beautiful you were, inside or out. If you had long straight hair, you might as well get in line to be nominated “Prom Queen”.  I had a terrible bout with depression, and tempted periodically to relax my natural tresses. I wanted a boyfriend! During my time in school, I learned to focus on my studies, especially by my Senior year. I thought by that time, I had been boyfriendless all of these years so if no one wanted to date me because of the way my hair looked, then to hell with him!  I had gained enough confidence to withstand a whole army, due to the fact that I was a straight A student, and I had made the Dean’s list 3 times. I’m on my way to become a Psychiatrist!  That’s what I wanted to major in once I had gotten accepted into college. I Planned on going to Duke University, because I wanted the best education in the south that money could buy, besides getting a scholarship. I needed to be abled to study and treat these sick twisted minds. We are all human, and I am by no means flawless, I just tend to tuck my flaws a little better than others.

It wasn’t until I went to  college that I realized how shallow and superficial people were from my hometown. I grew up in a small town;  population about 10,000 people. I couldn’t imagine the freedom and love of natural hair that I was experiencing. In fact, most of the women wore natural hair, whether it was pulled back in a ponytail, or braided up, in sister-locs, or even blown out, people embraced their natural, and I loved it! I thought at first, maybe they were just too broke to keep up with the maintenance. Most college kids are “broke” right?  I became guilty of  judging, maybe because I had been previously judged myself. After brief conversations with some of my classmates and also my roommate, I learned that “natural” was in. Some had learned this after having their hair thinned out from over processing, and breakage in general. In fact if you wore a relaxer, you were considered uncool.  I was abled to be myself, and embrace something that had always been a part of me. I found Heaven..on Earth! I also found out that a lot of the men hated that most women relaxed their hair instead of embracing their natural beauty.

My  journey from childhood to adulthood has been a testament of  self expression. If I didn’t have the moral support of my family and inner confidence that God had ordained me with, I would have probably been one to change with the trends. A soul not easily broken is a soul that can heal a broken heart. I also want to thank the guys that didn’t want to date me.  It taught me to depend on my own independence.  My journey of independence will be relinquished when the right one comes along.  This in no way is a testament of independence, but a testament of  interdependence.  Each relationship whether just social, intimate, or family bonding; depends on the reaction that has a counterintuitive balance. May your hair be the strength that binds soul-ly to the true you. May the reflection so shine on you!


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Crystal Gazing by Za’Niyah

Your Horoscope Today! May 25, 2014:

Be careful who you allow in your space. Today is Quite refreshing and rather nostalgic. If you want to be close to your loved ones, then try a proactive approach and go for it. Create memories, not distance!


Gemini (May 21- June 20):

This is the time for you to decide who and what you want to be. No more drama filled, personal assaults on yourself and others. It’s ok to be double minded at times, but only when there is room for improvement.


Cancer (June 21- July 22):

Don’t “Throw caution to the wind” says no wealthy person ever! Life is about taking risks and you are great at doing  just that. Take the time now to examine the pros and cons, then step out on faith!


Leo (July 23- Aug. 22):

Oh quiet down your roar for crying out loud! And that is exactly what has been going on for quite some time. Leo you are fierce at everything that you do. Just learn to show more than you speak about.  After all, actions do speak louder than words!


Virgo (Aug. 23- Sept. 22):

Stubborn is as stubborn does, Virgo. Why not open up your heart and mind to someone unsuspecting? You don’t have to be right all of the time either.  Sometimes humbling yourself and not always having the final say is most rewarding.


Libra (Sept. 23- Oct. 22):

Love is not meant to be given to just anybody. Every person that you date are not meant to be forever.  It’s getting hot outside. Remember to keep your internal temperature cool instead of  being hot in your pants. If you really need affection, then it may be time to invest in a puppy….


Scorpio (Oct. 23- Nov 21):

Scorpio..oh Scorpio….where art thou oh Scorpio? Maybe it is time to consider that everyone is NOT an enemy.  And everyone cannot hear the voices inside of your head.  It’s ok to come out of  hiding.  People can’t come in with all of the boobie traps and walls built around your heart!


Sagittarius (Nov 22- Dec 21):

This is the time to reconsider your dating pool. Everyone doesn’t just like you for who you are, but what you can do for them, literally. Your looks and your sex game alone is not enough to sustain your relationships.


Capricorn (Dec. 22- Jan 19):

You are not as tough as you think you are.. No matter what you think, some people really do have it worst than you do! Stop crying and deal with life, it happens daily.


Aquarius (Jan. 20- Feb. 18):

You are likeable, deep down inside you want to like people too.  But your lack of  empathy  is causing your circle to get smaller and smaller, by the second. Pretty soon you will be talking to yourself.  You don’t want to appear crazy do you? Well it’s a little too late for that!


Pisces (Feb. 19- March 20):

Make up your mind already! Your conflicting thoughts and actions  are inflicting everyone around you.  And no, it’s not always about you.


Aries (March 21- April 19):

Oh you are just lovely. “Future is shining so bright, you gotta wear shades”!  Don’t flatter yourself  too much though, because that EGO has formed a head of it’s own. Look at the bright side, you may be the first, but not always the last. So instead of trying to hog up everything, think and choose wisely, for the FUTURE!



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Faith “IN” healing

Shortly after celebrating my 25th birthday, I received news from a doctor that was life changing. I had been diagnosed with an incurable neurological disease that has the potential to debilitate and lessen one’s quality of life.I was distraught and confused. Why me? Why now? As I struggled to wrap my mind around what was going on, being 90% blind in one eye, in a hospital with IVs and different medications being pumped into my body, I sat in that hospital bed and I began to cry out to God. All of my family and friends had gone home…no nurses were attending to me. It was just me and the Lord.

My heart was heavy because I didn’t think I was strong enough to carry such a weight. I didn’t believe that I would be able to live a life with impairments and disabilities. I didn’t know what my life would be like now that this beast had reared its unforgiving head. As I was crying, I couldn’t even manage to utter words, just a face full of tears. It was in this moment that God began dealing with me, telling me that I was a child of the King and no matter what I was presented with, He would be with me always. I fell asleep that night with peace even though I still didn’t know what lied ahead of me. I realized I had began to develop something mustard seed sized…FAITH!

I was released from the hospital after three days of treatment. My neurologist told me that even with treatment, there was no guarantee that I would regain my vision and if I did, there was a chance that I would still have difficulties seeing. I went to church just a few hours after being discharged. I needed to be in a place where people were free of doubt and full of the same crazy faith I had gained. I needed to be in the presence of the Lord so that I could receive strength to face the challenges ahead of me.

I was sick and the medication I was given made me feel as though I was dying. Every inch of my body was filled with pain and I remember falling face first onto my bed and crying as my mother tried to console me. “Mama, I can’t do this!”, I exclaimed. She couldn’t fully understand what I was feeling…I still don’t have the words to describe it. All I know is that I was in extreme pain and I was tired of being strong but I couldn’t give up because God would get no glory out of the story. I had to take everyday minute by minute, prayer by prayer. As the days went on, I felt my help coming from the Lord!

Three months had passed since my diagnosis and I was feeling better. One night after church, I was lying in bed watching TV and all of a sudden, I noticed something was different… I COULD SEE!! I sat up, covered my left eye and it was normal! Covered my right eye and it was normal! I jumped out of bed and began screaming “THANK YOU JESUS!” and I called and texted family and friends to share the news of my healing! God had seen my struggle, heard my cry, and honored my faith. I went to my eye doctor a few months later for an exam and he looked perplexed. He said, “Aren’t you the one who was blind? Didn’t I see you earlier this year?” I smiled and nodded because I knew he couldn’t understand how an optic nerve could be damaged to the degree of blindness and just a few months later be perfectly normal. He told me that my prescription had not changed from almost two years before and that I didn’t need new glasses. He shook my hand and said he’d never seen someone come back from something as well as I had. I knew that it was nothing but the hand of the Lord!

I would like to tell you that the past two and a half years have been nothing but excellent but that would be a lie. What I can tell you is that I’ve faced obstacles and hurdles but I continue to run this race because God is faithful to those that believe and trust in Him! I developed a motto when I learned of my illness and it has been my guiding principle when I feel discouraged: Defy all odds! No matter what the doctors say or what statistics show, I will defy the odds!

By: Ne-Ne Llyn

You may not be dealing with an illness, but I am sure you are challenged at some points in your life. If you don’t remember anything else, remember that FAITH will always open doors and move mountains. Trust in the Lord and He will make a way! God performs miracles but will you have the faith to believe?

*Romans 8:26-27
Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.

*Deuteronomy 31:8
It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.

*Philippians 4:7
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

*Matthew 17:20
And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.

*Psalm 121:1-2
I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help.My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth.

*Hebrews 11:1
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

*Isaiah 53:5
But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

*Ephesians 3:20
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us



Brandi N Anderson

Are You Praying or Are You Worrying?

To some, when they pray, they bring their worries to God but focus too much on their worries. Your prayer should not be one that increases your worry but decreases it. You are to turn your worries into a request!   What are you asking God for, what do you want Him to do? You have to go to Him with one objective and that objective is to find peace in the midst of your storm. If you are worrying to God instead of praying to Him, you can’t feel the peace He has for you and your situation. Worrying doesn’t change anything but prayer truly does.

Brandi N Anderson


Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

 Matthew 6:27

And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?

 Proverbs 12:25

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.




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Really? Why? What’s next? I shouldn’t worry? Are just a few redundant  thoughts that races through my mind. I have been through so much in this short life that many do not see in a lifetime. Damn, every way I turn it’s a scare, road block or something trying to prevent me or discourage me from my dreams or goals. “You know girl, when things are going good, the devil angers and brings forth his rage of hardships.” When this happens you just have to stop, pray and have faith that you are protected. It’s ok girl, because although you may buckle…You will not break. Just keep pushing through because that’s how you were built.

For Nothing Is Impossible With God
Luke 1:37

Sign Mrs.

Really? Why? What’s next?



Crystal gazing By Za’Niyah

Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19)

This month try using a “super” perm to tame those naps.

Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb 18)

Stop bugging people for rides, then offering only $5 for gas, get yo azz on the bus.

Pisces (Feb. 19 – March 20)

If people talk to you with their hand over their mouth, it’s time to call the dentist. Yuck Mouth!!

Aries (Mar. 21 – April 19)

If people suddenly pass out when you lift your arms, it’s time o change your deodorant.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Layoff the salt pork this morning, the swelling of your ankles has your feet looking like 2 Honey Suckle Hams.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

That old raggedy black suit, you wear to church, funerals, wedding, job interviews….. let that GO! Retire it!

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Treat yourself to a much needed pedicure; feet got more crust then a pizza.

Leo (July 23 – Aug. 22)

Stop drinking all the kool-aid up, and leaving the empty pitcher in the fridge, your momma ready to put you out.

Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sept. 22)

Put the potato chip bag down, your one chip away from weighing 400 lbs.

Libra (Sept.23 – Oct. 22)

Pajama pants and bonnet on your head, are not appropriate gear to be in public….ghetto fabulous.

Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21)

It’s time to move out your momma’s basement, the ladies are tired of sneaking through the side door.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21)

Girl you look like Mr. T, stop gluing tracks in your head! This month, try a sew-in.