Monthly Archives: July 2015

31Jul/15
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Barber Shop “Chop up”

 

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I was curious to know if other barbers in different parts of the country were indistinguishable. Excited about the thought; I disembarked the city of Chicago for a class with Dudley’s school of Cosmetology.FB_IMG_1438308786051FB_IMG_1438308798528 This trip was an Honor for me because Dudley’s Products are like the Mercedes Benz of hair products for African American Hair. This class possessed some of Americas Top Barbers from “Hotlanta” to my Hometown in Highland Park, MI. 11209560_492171967625595_302049933858343301_n 11755147_492171934292265_4101304602645663095_n

Meeting many a barber’s in my day and watching them come and go; there is something about a barber that entices me (no pun intended). These men are all driven by something. Me being me, of course I am going to satisfy my curiosity. In the “CHI” I had the Liberty of conversing with some well re-knowned Young Men that “cut up”. You can watch the video here, just click on the link. Enticing Resultz Magazine Live in Chicago

Sitting face to face with them and straight grilling them, I had questions and they had answers. So those of you that visit the barber shop or are even in thought of becoming a Barber, take notes. Because this stuff you simply won’t find in a text book.

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Alicia thaHighlander

Born Alicia Dinera` Williams, a name that her only Biological Paternal Aunt had given her, Alicia was born and raised in the city of Highland Park, Michigan in 1978 by both her parental units. In Highland Park, Michigan is where she began a career in mental health in which she became certified by the State of Michigan Department of community health as a Social Worker Technician. Through much hardship, but still determined, Alicia had always had a loyal heart for trichology (the science of Hair). Through multiple career changes, she not only went to Cosmetology School, she had also become a school bus driver and tax preparer for Liberty Tax out of River Rouge, Michigan; and later a Paralegal. She realized that even with her Children’s ages ranging from 19, 10, and 6 it was not too late for her to spread her wings and soar. As a columnist for Enticing Resultz Magazine, Alicia has had the opportunity to collaborate with many faces much like her journey in life.

Photo Credits: Enticing Resultz Magazine

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31Jul/15
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Get Off Your High Horse & Give Up Your Colt!

 There are so many ways that we cause ourselves much harm and stagnation simply by holding onto what we should already let go of. Case in point however, is the fact that the only real way to make room for the new is to first, let go of the old.

I’d like to imagine that life has probably taught you by now that it is not always the most gifted, talented, wealthy or even the smartest person who goes the furthest in life. Time and time again we see that the type of person who typically rises to the top in any endeavor of life is the one who learns the secret of sacrifice. In other words, the one who knows how to deny themselves what they want in the moment to get what they really want later tend to eventually get what they really want instead of what they had to settle for. By and large the masses of people however, tend to know a lot more about what it is to settle rather than what it is to experience true and lasting success because they refuse to fully understand and operate according to the laws of sacrifice.

Check this out. There’s a brief but powerful passage found in the following passage that offers us this teaching:

Mark 11:1-7, 12-14 [NKJV]

1 Now when they drew near Jerusalem, to Bethphage and Bethany, at the Mount of Olives, He sent two of His disciples; 2and He said to them, “Go into the village opposite you; and as soon as you have entered it you will find a colt tied, on which no one has sat.

Loose it and bring it. 3And if anyone says to you, “Why are you doing this?’ say, “The

Lord has need of it,’ and immediately he will send it here.”

4So they went their way, and found the colt tied by the door outside on the street, and they loosed it. 5But some of those who stood there said to them, “What are you doing, loosing the colt?”

6And they spoke to them just as Jesus had commanded. So they let them go. 7Then they brought the colt to Jesus and threw their clothes on it, and He sat on it.

I want you to keep in mind that the owner of this colt had a choice to make. Who knows how long he had taken care of this colt; how much he had paid for it or even how long it might had been in the family. In fact, none of these details are even revealed in the story or given any attention to whatsoever. The only thing that we can really conclude from the text is that the owner was instantly willing to obey the request of the Lord. Yes, he was ready to practice the law of sacrifice. You got it! What the Lord had need of; he was more than willing to give.

Some would suggest that the Lord doesn’t need us at all and that it is we who need him! True that! Yet, in one regard; that is only partially correct. Though the Lord could and does often do profound things without us or even in spite of us; the amazing thing about his work is that he often chooses to include us. Yes, I don’t know about you so I’ll just speak for myself, I often find it absolutely amazing how the Lord speaks to my heart and soul to tell me that he has need of me! Why!!! I tell you no lie; I know for a fact that he could use so many others far more well suited than I am to do many of the things that he is doing through me. I have no doubt in my mind about that! So surely he certainly could do without any of us though none of us could ever do without him but because of who he is; he chooses to use us about as much as we are at least willing to be used. Here am I; use me Lord!!!!

Here’s something to think about:

What is it that the Lord has already pointed out to you that he ‘has need of’ in your life? What element of your life does he desire to have more of from YOU: Your time? Your Talent? Your Treasure? Are you willing to loose your colt? Are you willing to let go of anything & everything in your life that the Lord has need of & wants to use? Tragically, the answer to that question for many of us

Is a resounding “NO.” No, we are not willing to give God any more of our time, NO, we do not desire to give that gift and talent to the Lord either and finally, once and for all, NO, we do not believe in giving the Lord our hard earned money. Yet, we are so click to say how much we love God! I’m afraid a good many of us though religious as we are, are a bit too much like the fig tree, spoken about by Jesus, in the same chapter:

12 Now the next day, when they had come out from Bethany, He was hungry. 13And seeing from afar a fig tree having leaves, He went to see if perhaps He would find something on it. When He came to it, He found nothing but leaves, for it was not the season for figs. 14In response Jesus said to it, “Let no one eat fruit from you ever again.” And His disciples heard it.

According to the lesson from the fig tree, where do you think that pretending to give The Lord what you really haven’t given him from your heart will get you? Will you be more like the one who gave away his colt or the fig tree that pretended to be more spiritual than he really was? Hell To The Know there is a difference! Get Off Your High Horse & Give Up Your Colt!

 

Mel Keyes, native Brooklynite is the pastor of The Joshua House of Worship, a multi-cultural and multigenerational congregation located on the west side of San Antonio, Texas. He’s been married to the lovely Kendra Keyes for twenty five years, with three children and two grandchildren. He is a graduate of The Baptist University of the Americas and Dallas Baptist University. He is the author of Hell To The

Know, How To Get From The Hell You’re Living In To The Life You Were Meant To Live.” Mel is also the founder of Joshua Generation Radio.org. as well as his life coaching practice “ Master Keyes Coaching & Consulting” and A Director With Total Life Changes. Determined to build his life on vision, Mel lives his life around three core principles of his personal vision for Ministry, Entrepreneurship & Leadership:

To passionately serve God, my family, friends and others around me through strong, loving, disciple making MINISTRY.

To empower armies of disciples through life transforming ENTREPRENEURSHIP.

To change the world around me through learning and practicing Christ centered, servant LEADERSHIP.

 

www.pastormelkeyes.cominfo@pastormelkeyes.com

(877) KEY-2382

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31Jul/15
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Whole Again

“Mighty are the works of your hand God, I thank you that even in the brokenness, I can still become whole again. How great are you O’God that you can take a nothing like me and use me for your services.”

I found that when one is broken, often times they are not able to be fixed. When it comes to families it would almost seem impossible for even a temporary fix, because we just give up altogether and live our lives. But here is a truth I want you to know about; just because you have been broken doesn’t mean that you have been thrown away, you can become whole again. Just because you have been broken doesn’t mean that you are unusable. Just because you are broken doesn’t mean you need to be placed in a corner with no hope of coming out, nor can you be made whole again.

Just because you are broken doesn’t mean you have been forgotten about. See brokenness has the power unlike anything I know, but what I have learned is that in your brokenness, strength can still be had, even in brokenness you can find your own inspiration, because it’s in those moments your hurt is so deep and you began to wonder; “what is this?” And something began to happen where you notice you were made for something more. There in that hurt, in that brokenness you began to search for your purpose and you find yourself beginning the process of becoming whole again.

Someone maybe asking how can you find purpose in your brokenness, or in the hurt? “They talked about me, they laughed at me, they lied on me, and you are telling me I can find purpose in all of that?” Yes I am. With the scars of your life, God will allow you to heal. Those healed wounds, God will get the Glory from. You may feel like the brokenness has rendered you useless in life. You may feel beyond repair this time. You may feel tossed aside. Forgotten, Shamed. Rejected, As you sit there and sit in your pity party. The scars of life, the healed wounds, the deep lines, they all have stories to tell and you are to be the one. In fact you are the only one that can tell, because nobody can tell it better than you. Yet often we try to hide our brokenness. Preferring to look good to and for the world. Instead of presenting to the world who you truly are, you don’t want to risk the difficulties of it all. If you front somehow it becomes alright. Well I come by to tell you, stop the fronting. Deal with the truth of the matter, reveal your vulnerability exposing it for what it was.The reason we can allow it to be exposed is because we have a healer.

One who repairs, one who can fit the broken pieces that no longer seem to fit right into a perfect design, I am a living witness of that, Just look at me, who would have thought that some seven years later, I would have gone back gotten my Masters Degree in Divinity School, of Bible Education. Who would have thought I would have been doing all that in this time of my life at the age I am, God was working, behind the scenes on my behalf, mending and fitting me back together, creating a better me a better work of art than before, more than I could ever have dreamed possible. He makes all things brand new, He makes all things beautiful. Especially in the broken area of your life all from his grace it is real life.

Serrated and rough edges and all they have even have meaning. Listen whatever your brokenness, whether it rape, drug addiction, broken marriage, domestic violence, and low-esteem, whatever it maybe God can break through all that mess. Don’t ever be ashamed of your scars; let those scars tell your story so that you can help someone else,your scars are your stories.

God sent His son into the world for this very thing that is why Jesus story is so powerful even today, He was the very epitome bringing life to what was broken, because He Himself was broken and He was broken for us. Behold, I am making all things new (Revelation 21:5). God said that enough for me that settle it. (2 Corinthians 5:17) Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. (Isaiah 43:19). Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. (Psalm 147:3). He has made everything beautiful in its time.

Father we thank you that even in our brokenness, we can still be made whole, we thank you for sending your Son to become the very epitome of brokenness, because it was through His brokenness that we were able to be healed. Thank you for your mercy and grace, thank you for being a great God, thank you for opening eyes that we might see your Glory, thank you for your peace and restoration, because God we know that Giants do fall down, and that’s all our brokenness was it was a giant that you got the Glory from, O’God we thank your now for being brand new. The things we did not think we could accomplish we have, be we allow ourselves to be vulnerable to your people and through our vulnerability they are now able to be healed. We thank you God for it all in Jesus name Amen.

 

Minister Adrine Jason is a widow and mother of four children. In addition to being a mother, she is a prayer intercessor for both Higher Dimension Church of Houston, Texas and of W.O.D.D. An author and writer of WomenWithGifts.com. Currently working on her degree in divinity and has completed a Bachelor’s Degree in Management in 2011 and Master’s Degree in Criminal Justice in 2012 from Phoenix University in Houston. Minister Jason is a current member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority and of Eastern Star. Working on her first book expected to be published by 2016 which will discuss her survivorship of sexual abuse, Minister Jason is available for teaching, speaking, prayer engagements. Please follow Minister Jason on on Prayer Moments with Adriene Jason

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14Jul/15
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Taking Care Of Self II

On August 18, 2014, I posted, “I chose to begin taking Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis or PrEP as another way to take back control of my life.  As a man of color who is also same-gender-loving the odds are against me in quite a few ways.  Instead of allowing the world to get me, I’m taking a stand with my health.”  Well it is almost a year later and I am still taking PReP but my reasons have changed slightly.

 In late March 2015, I attended the YBGLI (Young Black Gay Men’s Leadership Initiative) Policy & Advocacy Summit in Baltimore, Maryland.  As I tell people this was my first “big boy” conference where my limits were pushed, emotions discussed, and where I had the opportunity to create bonds with some of the most brilliant young minds of my generation.  My greatest take away from this experience was that I too am BRILLIANT.  For many years, I battled with the internal struggle of accepting that I am not what I have been led to believe and more over that I do not have to feed into what society’s ideals of what a professional young black same-gender-loving man is or looks like.  Three days of challenging myself from early morning to late into the evening brought me a rejuvenated sense of self-love and respect for others experiences. Featured image

(SideBar: Room 1217 was all I could ever ask for!  Thank you to everyone who graced that room with their presence.)

The experiences that moved me most were the stories of the gentle-persons who were Living with HIV.  Working in the HIV/AIDS field for almost a decade did not prepare me for the amount of HIV status disclosure I went through during those three days.  I am forever grateful for the eye-opening personal experiences that were shared.  There was one young man’s testimony of his diagnosis that had me in tears when he said, “I wish things like PReP were available to me before I was diagnosed.”  In that emotional moment I had to reflect on my own sh#%. Yes, I was taking PReP, but my own adherence to a drug that was not –and is not- always available to everyone was at the time rocky at best.

Over the next few weeks, I took a hard look at myself thinking over the choices that led me to deciding to begin PReP; my circumstances had changed.  I had been consciously practicing abstinence and saw no risk factor that attributed to me needing to continue with PReP.  I stopped cold turkey…remembering that while not instantly unprotected, if I chose to have unprotected sex my extra helper would not be there anymore to aid me in my hour of need.  As life would have it a situation occurred where unprotected sex did happen and all I could think about was that little blue pill.

Thankfully still negative, the realization that I had come to was that in this life we can’t do everything alone.  While wise enough to not use protection, I hadn’t.  I began PReP again and this time I saw it as not only my aid; No instead PReP is now my wake up call to a reality that I need to protect myself for myself and stop putting my life in others hands.  No longer do I have the mindset that if I desire to stay negative I am doing my part by popping a pill, leaving myself open for STDs including HIV, and putting trust in my partner to be ‘condom ready’.

“I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.” –William Ernest Henley


Be Well and Prosperous,

 
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01Jul/15
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Why Do We Have To Go Through These Changes?

I was scrolling through my news feed on Facebook and I stumbled across a stat about relationships. The question was “Why do beautiful women put up with the wackest dudes…?” I thought to my self..then I replied..”This is true…I wonder why too…but my take on it is that some of the most BEAUTIFUL women have low self esteem. And when these men approach them it’s because they are showing their ‘representative’. Some men are real slick with it…especially if the women are baring their soul to them initially.. Most women are craving love so badly that they don’t set standards or even have them for that matter and are looking through rose colored glasses…so when these men come along they sound like a dream..and they do everything to hook the women so when that initial phase is over…the real person comes out..by that time feelings are involved and the woman may look at him as an investment and women most often don’t want to lose investments….there’s more but that is a summation of what I see and hear..  I try to school these young ladies..I have been through it…so I know what it is…my generation barely made it..but I feel sooo sorry for these generations that are coming up…no real solid foundations to hold onto…they are just out to get what they can get..” This also brings me to a video of Tina..one half of the gospel duo, Mary Mary; that has gone viral over the last couple of weeks, See Here. It shows her being caught up in a moment of rage over her husband’s cheating affairs. At first I was judgemental because I couldn’t understand how could someone of that stature air out her dirty laundry on reality tv..after all it’s a little different than some of the other reality shows that I have seen (we’ll save that for another day). The truth is I’m glad that she did because it erases some of the stereotypes that women in the gospel world face in their own personal lives. Most people forget that yet they speak in tongues, and sing you to life; they also deal with some of the same issues that we normal folk deal with. I think the problem of putting them on a pedestal alienates them from having real feelings, real issues, etc. The problem is not having the issue, but the reaction that you have to the issue. Yes we know in church the we are taught to forgive, love thy neighbor, turn the other cheek…but when issues arise do we really seek the face of God? Or do our natural carnal selves kick in? The Bible speaks of having on the full armor of God…but in times of hurt and pain do we really? I think part of the problem is that we as humans are constantly evolving…each generation has its own coping mechanism to the changing systems that preceded them…and setting their own individualism at the same time….it’s the survival of the fittest….All in all in the process of evolution..what happens externally happens internally as well… Perhaps there is a change in “role” dynamics? Are there undercurrents of feminism displayed in the raising of fatherless men? Hence the term “b%$#&a!#ness” ? Or…or is it the Freudian theory that references that men are attracted to women that resemble (features, mannerisms) their mothers, and women are attracted to men that resemble (features, mannerisms) their fathers?  Are men and women upholding the standards of their parents? Well what happens if there is lacking on either side of the equation? Is there a missing quotient? Do we just add in the factor that’s missing? Or do we look for examples and mimic them from our “community”

Watching this video, I can actually say that I’ve been there. I’ve been broken down to a level this extreme. Maybe even more extreme. I don’t care how strong you are. If you love a person (think you are in love), then you will go through hell and hell some more. Most women are programmed from a young age to stick by their man, the more you stick by him, he will change.That’s not true unless he wants to change. I can actually say that I don’t have that baggage anymore. I left that type of relationship a long time ago. So any man that I date or have a relationship with in this present day, I will not allow him to break me down to that level. It’s a mutual thing. If you love me and adore me then it is reciprocated wholeheartedly. No games, no half-assed attempts, and no side pieces.

What are your thoughts?

Shanell Monique is a Licensed Cosmetologist with over a decade of experience. She is Editor-in-Chief of Enticing Resultz Magazine, Hair Artist with Glam elite Enterprise, also a Published, Avant-Garde, Freelance Hairstylist, Educator and former Salon Owner of nine years, Nurse for 15 years. For more info read about her Here 

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