Enticing Resultz Magazine did a debate to see how many different opinions there are of being a single parent. Could a single man raise a daughter to be a woman? Could a single mother raise a son to be a man?
Enticing Resultz Magazine felt the need to talk about this subject because there are so many negative opinions when it comes to single parents. Society feels that single parents can not a raise a child probably because it takes two parents. This may be true but we have to give props to our single parents because they have it much harder because of the fact it’s only one. According the American Psychological Association, over the past 20 year single parents have become common from single mother, single fathers and grandparents raising children. Being a single parents brings stress on the parent as well as the child. The single parent may feel overwhelmed by the responsibility of juggling caring for the children, maintaining a job and keeping up with the bills and household chores. And typically, the family’s finances and resources are drastically reduced following the parents’ breakup.
The debate was done with different opinions of all races and ages. The results of the debate included 100% of the people agreed that being a single parent in this day an age is hard. And 80% percent agree that yes a man can raise a daughter to be a woman and yes a mother can raise a son to be a man. But when it comes to certain things like puberty then you need the help of a woman when it comes to girls and the help of male when it comes to boys.
Being a single parent in this economy seems to be difficult because they are so many obstacle and loops to jump through just to make sure that your child is safe. By the economy being down makes it even worst, because they are no jobs and you have to work two or more jobs just to make ends meet. This like stated before brings stress on the parent which in turns brings stress to the child. Children learn from what they see and hear, so that’s why we have good apples and bad ones. So children do not know how to handle the stress of life or do not understand why things are the way they are, when all the responsibility is all on one person. Being a parent period is hard, whether you have two parents or one. But there is great debate that kids are the way they are because of the single parent situation.
Don’t get me wrong you have single parents who children turns out to be good kids and then you have parents who kids just went down the wrong path. But that also goes both ways. The results of the debate indicate that being a parent period is a hard job and that it takes all to help raise a child.
Growing up as child you always wondered why your parents was so hard you and why they pushed education as being very important in order to survive. How they were wrong for not letting you do this and that. Why you had to clean your room and wash dishes after dinner. This was all to instill responsibility in you. Now that you look back after having your own kids and see that they weren’t hard on you all.
Single parents are look down upon because it is written that it takes two parents to raise a child. But in reality a single parents is probably better than having two parents. Because this instill in the child how strong their mother or father are. A single parent has to work twice as hard to make sure that they child get everything they need. Society can not predict how to raise a child because each child is individual with their own personalities.
When a man is raising a daughter he can instill in her all the morals of how a woman should be treated and when it comes to personal things that only female can handle he can call on his mother, aunts and sisters. In my opinion it would be harder for a man to raise a child as single parents because woman are made to stronger than the man when it comes to things like raising children. I give great props to a man that is raising a child on his own whether it is a daughter or a son. Just like it takes a strong woman the same goes for a man. But it is very rarely that you see a single man raising child.
When it comes to single mothers raising a son the same goes for her as it would for the man raising a son. She would have to rely on her father, brothers and uncles to help with things that she could not explain to him. Women are naturally built to take on things like this. If we go back in history the woman stayed home and raised the kids while the man worked to bring home the bacon. But in this day age times has changed and the woman is taking on the responsibility of taking care of the whole house. That’s why it is natural for a woman to raise a child on her own.
In conclusion, it really takes a village to raise a child because there are so many distractions, that wasn’t there when we were growing up. It also takes a strong minded child to survive the entire obstacle that they are going to face once there adults. We learn from our environment and it takes the whole family to help with raising our children. They are our futures and we have to band together to make sure things are right for them.
As a parent I learned that no matter how you raise your children they are going to turn out to be whatever they heart desire. We just have to pray that they follow the right path and not go down the wrong one. Don’t blame yourself if your child turns out to be the opposite of what you want them to be. You did your job and it’s up to them to take what they learn and make a future for themselves. My grandma always told me whatever you’re going to be, be the best at it not matter what it is.
Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine