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23Oct/15
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Movie Review: War Room

Maybe you saw it ! You did go to see it didn’t you? Well, you need to! Yes, you owe it to yourself to see the best movie I’ve seen in decades and trust me when I say that I love my movies! Yes, of course, I’m talking about “War Room.” What other movie could I possibly be talking about on this level?

 

War Room

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Directed by           Alex Kendrick

  • Stephen Kendrick
  • Produced by                   Gary Wheeler
  • Alex Kendrick
  • Written by               Stephen Kendrick
  • Priscilla Shirer
  • Starring           T.C. Stallings
  • Karen AbercrombieCinematography Bob M. Scott
  • Music by       Paul Mills
  • Steve Hullfish
  • Edited by                       Alex Kendrick
  • Affirm Films
  • Production Kendrick Brothers companies Productions
  • Provident FilmsWar Room’ is a 2015 American Christiandrama filmdirected by  Alex Kendrickand cowritten and produced by his brother Stephen Kendrick.This film reaffirms the core teaching known by just a handful that prayer needs to be staged and prepared for much like combat does in a military ‘War Room‘ environment where life and death can hang in the balance.Of course, nobody saw me shed a tear [at least not those who weren’t in my row.]”Kendrick brothers, you are wrong for that!Here’s the scene: Its time for you to fight Elizabeth. Its time for you to fight THE REAL ENEMY You gotta love it! At least I did but what is all of this “War Room” stuff about anyway? Man, you’re asking all of the great questions! My friend, it is about prayer, open communication between you and the one who made you. No silly, not your parents; God, your creator and sustainer! The War Room is about opening up and keeping clear and free lines of communication between you and Jesus Christ our Lord as your savior and redeemer. It is about having the barracks of your heart and soul in constant connection with headquarters.   from “WAR ROOM” …. My friend, could it be my that the reason that so many of our lives might look like ‘war torn’ battle grounds demolished by enemy tactics is because so very few of us regularly spend time in the ‘War Room?”“What a friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear! O what peace we often forfeit, O what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.” My friend, could it be that prayer, to be brutally honest is not something that most of us really seem to make much time for or tend to practice much in today’s times [unless of course, there is a declared state of national or personal emergency?]Could we be honest about most of our churches?In fact, if you ran a survey throughout most churches today you would discover that the PRAYER SERVICE is the least participated service of the entire church!This fact, just goes to show us how desperately in trouble we are and how much we have fallen.On one occasion, his disciples had seen his own lifestyle, passion and power of his prayers and they asked him to teach them how to pray. Look at Jesus’ personal instruction to them that still serves as a powerful model today:”And when you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward.8“Therefore do not be like them. For your Father knows the things you have need of before you ask Him. 9In this manner, therefore, pray:       Hallowed be Your name.       Your will be done       11Give us this day our daily bread.         12And forgive us our debts,         As we forgive our debtors.       For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.16 “Moreover, when you fast, do not be like the hypocrites, with a sad countenance. For they disfigure their faces that they may appear to men to be fasting. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. 17But you, when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, 18so that you do not appear to men to be fasting, but to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly.Text “prayerpower” 40691 Prayer then, is nothing something to just read about or talk about. It’s something to practice on a regular basis.Yes, we need to invite God into our lives through prayer and get his divine intervention employed in our war like scenarios. However, he won’’ come in unless we invite him.“God I cant make it without YOU! I NEED YOU to show up and show out in my life. God, I’m tired and exhausted from doing my thing…..please forgive me, wash me, clean me up, demonstrate your power in my life…. And have your way!”If you would like to join the “Joshua Generation” in our online prayer meetings held on the first three days of every month [1st, 2nd and 3rd] please do the following and we’ll get you the information you need.Text “WarRoom” 40691 There are no numbers missing.”
  • We’ll hope to meet you in our very own online “War Room.”
  • [Note: no spaces in the spelling and the # to text is what is referred to as a “short code.
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  • We meet ONLINE for prayer @ 530am central on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd of each month.
  • Brother s and sisters, you owe it to yourself to make prayer a very essential part of your lifestyle on both a personal and public level. “War Room” has inspired me to take my own prayer ministry a lot more seriously. I sure hope you go out of your way to watch it and share it with others who may be inspired in this areas as I have been on a personal level.
  • Prayer then, is our invite to God. Prayer is our humble request. It is our saying to him,
  • The movie “War Room” teaches us that whether you are experiencing battle ground fatigue in your marriage, relationships, finances, health or just life in general; the solution is the same; we need to PRAY!
  • Ladies and gentlemen, let’s face it; we can have all of the teaching and instruction in the world about prayer but if we don’t ‘drop down’ on our knees to practice it, it’s all for naught.
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  • To Hear A Message About How You Go To Higher Ground By Applying This Prayer Model In Your Own Life:
  • 14“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
  •        13And do not lead us into temptation,         But deliver us from the evil one.
  •        On earth as it is in heaven.
  •        10Your kingdom come.
  •        Our Father in heaven,
  • 6But you, when you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly. 7And when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathen do. For they think that they will be heard for their many words.
  • MATTHEW 6:5-18
  • Consider this, our Lord Jesus himself, was a man of very passionate prayer wasn’t he? Now, if Jesus prayed as much as he did as ‘the only begotten Son of God,’ then why wouldn’t we?
  • It’s critical that you get this. How could it be that perhaps the most ESSENTIAL ministry in the church is also the most NEGLECTED ministry at the same time?
  • § We’ve ADDED a few PROGRAMS § But we’ve DELETED so much PRAYER!
  • Tragically, this lack of prayer is not just limited to a personal level. We even find a lack of prayer in most congregations. Yes, sadly the very places that should be “houses of prayer” very seldom are.
  • [written by Joseph M. Scriven / composed by Charles Crozat Converse]
  • What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer!
  • Do you remember the old lyrics from the hymnal that you would probably here sung from time to time but not nearly as much now?
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  • Personally speaking, here’s what I’ve found to be true about prayer. Prayer is our surest pathway to higher ground. It is our 24-7 hotline to get in touch with headquarters, particularly the commander in chief of all of our human affairs. In my opinion, prayer makes us stand up a little bit taller seeing that we will never be any taller than when we are on our knees in prayer.
  • Its time for you to TAKE OFF THE GLOVES and DO IT.”
  • Its time for you to fight for your marriage
  • “You need to do your fighting in prayer. And you need to kick the real enemy out of your home …. with the word of God!
  • What was my favorite part of the “War Room?” Great question. It’s really hard to say because there were so many great parts but there is this one part when the seasoned, wise prayer warrior and widow, Miss Clara Williams [played by Karen Abercrombie] speaks heart and soul staring into the eyes of Elizabeth Jordan, a discouraged wife, mother and professional realtor who has all but lost faith [played by Priscilla Shirer] and it sort of kind of gave me that feeling that you might have gotten when you first saw “Rocky” running up the endless set of steps right before his big fight!
  • Okay I’ll tell you. There were so many powerful parts in the movie. In fact, the movie as a whole demonstrated the Kendrick’s ‘spiritual giftedness’ in pulling out every emotion there is in a man out of him in public and in the most embarrassing way possible.”
  • This dynamic, classic is the 5th film produced by the Kendrick brothers but their very first project produced through their own Kendrick Brothers Productions.
  • Distributed by        TriStar Pictures

 

Paster MEL

Mel Keyes, native Brooklynite is the pastor of The Joshua House of Worship, a multi-cultural and multigenerational congregation located on the west side of San Antonio, Texas. He’s been married to the lovely Kendra Keyes for twenty five years, with three children and two grandchildren. He is a graduate of The Baptist University of the Americas and Dallas Baptist University. He is the author of Hell To The

Know, How To Get From The Hell You’re Living In To The Life You Were Meant To Live.” Mel is also the founder of JoshuaGenerationRadio.org. as well as his life coaching practice “ Master Keyes Coaching & Consulting” and A Director With Total Life Changes. Determined to build his life on vision, Mel lives his life around three core principles of his personal vision for Ministry, Entrepreneurship & Leadership:

To passionately serve God, my family, friends and others around me through strong, loving, disciple making MINISTRY.

To empower armies of disciples through life transforming ENTREPRENEURSHIP.

To change the world around me through learning and practicing Christ centered, servant LEADERSHIP.

www.pastormelkeyes.com

info@pastormelkeyes.com

(877) KEY-2382

 

 

 

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31Jul/15
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Get Off Your High Horse & Give Up Your Colt!

 There are so many ways that we cause ourselves much harm and stagnation simply by holding onto what we should already let go of. Case in point however, is the fact that the only real way to make room for the new is to first, let go of the old.

I’d like to imagine that life has probably taught you by now that it is not always the most gifted, talented, wealthy or even the smartest person who goes the furthest in life. Time and time again we see that the type of person who typically rises to the top in any endeavor of life is the one who learns the secret of sacrifice. In other words, the one who knows how to deny themselves what they want in the moment to get what they really want later tend to eventually get what they really want instead of what they had to settle for. By and large the masses of people however, tend to know a lot more about what it is to settle rather than what it is to experience true and lasting success because they refuse to fully understand and operate according to the laws of sacrifice.

Check this out. There’s a brief but powerful passage found in the following passage that offers us this teaching:

Mark 11:1-7, 12-14 [NKJV]

1 Now when they drew near Jerusalem, to Bethphage and Bethany, at the Mount of Olives, He sent two of His disciples; 2and He said to them, “Go into the village opposite you; and as soon as you have entered it you will find a colt tied, on which no one has sat.

Loose it and bring it. 3And if anyone says to you, “Why are you doing this?’ say, “The

Lord has need of it,’ and immediately he will send it here.”

4So they went their way, and found the colt tied by the door outside on the street, and they loosed it. 5But some of those who stood there said to them, “What are you doing, loosing the colt?”

6And they spoke to them just as Jesus had commanded. So they let them go. 7Then they brought the colt to Jesus and threw their clothes on it, and He sat on it.

I want you to keep in mind that the owner of this colt had a choice to make. Who knows how long he had taken care of this colt; how much he had paid for it or even how long it might had been in the family. In fact, none of these details are even revealed in the story or given any attention to whatsoever. The only thing that we can really conclude from the text is that the owner was instantly willing to obey the request of the Lord. Yes, he was ready to practice the law of sacrifice. You got it! What the Lord had need of; he was more than willing to give.

Some would suggest that the Lord doesn’t need us at all and that it is we who need him! True that! Yet, in one regard; that is only partially correct. Though the Lord could and does often do profound things without us or even in spite of us; the amazing thing about his work is that he often chooses to include us. Yes, I don’t know about you so I’ll just speak for myself, I often find it absolutely amazing how the Lord speaks to my heart and soul to tell me that he has need of me! Why!!! I tell you no lie; I know for a fact that he could use so many others far more well suited than I am to do many of the things that he is doing through me. I have no doubt in my mind about that! So surely he certainly could do without any of us though none of us could ever do without him but because of who he is; he chooses to use us about as much as we are at least willing to be used. Here am I; use me Lord!!!!

Here’s something to think about:

What is it that the Lord has already pointed out to you that he ‘has need of’ in your life? What element of your life does he desire to have more of from YOU: Your time? Your Talent? Your Treasure? Are you willing to loose your colt? Are you willing to let go of anything & everything in your life that the Lord has need of & wants to use? Tragically, the answer to that question for many of us

Is a resounding “NO.” No, we are not willing to give God any more of our time, NO, we do not desire to give that gift and talent to the Lord either and finally, once and for all, NO, we do not believe in giving the Lord our hard earned money. Yet, we are so click to say how much we love God! I’m afraid a good many of us though religious as we are, are a bit too much like the fig tree, spoken about by Jesus, in the same chapter:

12 Now the next day, when they had come out from Bethany, He was hungry. 13And seeing from afar a fig tree having leaves, He went to see if perhaps He would find something on it. When He came to it, He found nothing but leaves, for it was not the season for figs. 14In response Jesus said to it, “Let no one eat fruit from you ever again.” And His disciples heard it.

According to the lesson from the fig tree, where do you think that pretending to give The Lord what you really haven’t given him from your heart will get you? Will you be more like the one who gave away his colt or the fig tree that pretended to be more spiritual than he really was? Hell To The Know there is a difference! Get Off Your High Horse & Give Up Your Colt!

 

Mel Keyes, native Brooklynite is the pastor of The Joshua House of Worship, a multi-cultural and multigenerational congregation located on the west side of San Antonio, Texas. He’s been married to the lovely Kendra Keyes for twenty five years, with three children and two grandchildren. He is a graduate of The Baptist University of the Americas and Dallas Baptist University. He is the author of Hell To The

Know, How To Get From The Hell You’re Living In To The Life You Were Meant To Live.” Mel is also the founder of Joshua Generation Radio.org. as well as his life coaching practice “ Master Keyes Coaching & Consulting” and A Director With Total Life Changes. Determined to build his life on vision, Mel lives his life around three core principles of his personal vision for Ministry, Entrepreneurship & Leadership:

To passionately serve God, my family, friends and others around me through strong, loving, disciple making MINISTRY.

To empower armies of disciples through life transforming ENTREPRENEURSHIP.

To change the world around me through learning and practicing Christ centered, servant LEADERSHIP.

 

www.pastormelkeyes.cominfo@pastormelkeyes.com

(877) KEY-2382

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31Jul/15
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Whole Again

“Mighty are the works of your hand God, I thank you that even in the brokenness, I can still become whole again. How great are you O’God that you can take a nothing like me and use me for your services.”

I found that when one is broken, often times they are not able to be fixed. When it comes to families it would almost seem impossible for even a temporary fix, because we just give up altogether and live our lives. But here is a truth I want you to know about; just because you have been broken doesn’t mean that you have been thrown away, you can become whole again. Just because you have been broken doesn’t mean that you are unusable. Just because you are broken doesn’t mean you need to be placed in a corner with no hope of coming out, nor can you be made whole again.

Just because you are broken doesn’t mean you have been forgotten about. See brokenness has the power unlike anything I know, but what I have learned is that in your brokenness, strength can still be had, even in brokenness you can find your own inspiration, because it’s in those moments your hurt is so deep and you began to wonder; “what is this?” And something began to happen where you notice you were made for something more. There in that hurt, in that brokenness you began to search for your purpose and you find yourself beginning the process of becoming whole again.

Someone maybe asking how can you find purpose in your brokenness, or in the hurt? “They talked about me, they laughed at me, they lied on me, and you are telling me I can find purpose in all of that?” Yes I am. With the scars of your life, God will allow you to heal. Those healed wounds, God will get the Glory from. You may feel like the brokenness has rendered you useless in life. You may feel beyond repair this time. You may feel tossed aside. Forgotten, Shamed. Rejected, As you sit there and sit in your pity party. The scars of life, the healed wounds, the deep lines, they all have stories to tell and you are to be the one. In fact you are the only one that can tell, because nobody can tell it better than you. Yet often we try to hide our brokenness. Preferring to look good to and for the world. Instead of presenting to the world who you truly are, you don’t want to risk the difficulties of it all. If you front somehow it becomes alright. Well I come by to tell you, stop the fronting. Deal with the truth of the matter, reveal your vulnerability exposing it for what it was.The reason we can allow it to be exposed is because we have a healer.

One who repairs, one who can fit the broken pieces that no longer seem to fit right into a perfect design, I am a living witness of that, Just look at me, who would have thought that some seven years later, I would have gone back gotten my Masters Degree in Divinity School, of Bible Education. Who would have thought I would have been doing all that in this time of my life at the age I am, God was working, behind the scenes on my behalf, mending and fitting me back together, creating a better me a better work of art than before, more than I could ever have dreamed possible. He makes all things brand new, He makes all things beautiful. Especially in the broken area of your life all from his grace it is real life.

Serrated and rough edges and all they have even have meaning. Listen whatever your brokenness, whether it rape, drug addiction, broken marriage, domestic violence, and low-esteem, whatever it maybe God can break through all that mess. Don’t ever be ashamed of your scars; let those scars tell your story so that you can help someone else,your scars are your stories.

God sent His son into the world for this very thing that is why Jesus story is so powerful even today, He was the very epitome bringing life to what was broken, because He Himself was broken and He was broken for us. Behold, I am making all things new (Revelation 21:5). God said that enough for me that settle it. (2 Corinthians 5:17) Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. (Isaiah 43:19). Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. (Psalm 147:3). He has made everything beautiful in its time.

Father we thank you that even in our brokenness, we can still be made whole, we thank you for sending your Son to become the very epitome of brokenness, because it was through His brokenness that we were able to be healed. Thank you for your mercy and grace, thank you for being a great God, thank you for opening eyes that we might see your Glory, thank you for your peace and restoration, because God we know that Giants do fall down, and that’s all our brokenness was it was a giant that you got the Glory from, O’God we thank your now for being brand new. The things we did not think we could accomplish we have, be we allow ourselves to be vulnerable to your people and through our vulnerability they are now able to be healed. We thank you God for it all in Jesus name Amen.

 

Minister Adrine Jason is a widow and mother of four children. In addition to being a mother, she is a prayer intercessor for both Higher Dimension Church of Houston, Texas and of W.O.D.D. An author and writer of WomenWithGifts.com. Currently working on her degree in divinity and has completed a Bachelor’s Degree in Management in 2011 and Master’s Degree in Criminal Justice in 2012 from Phoenix University in Houston. Minister Jason is a current member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority and of Eastern Star. Working on her first book expected to be published by 2016 which will discuss her survivorship of sexual abuse, Minister Jason is available for teaching, speaking, prayer engagements. Please follow Minister Jason on on Prayer Moments with Adriene Jason

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01Jul/15
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Why Do We Have To Go Through These Changes?

I was scrolling through my news feed on Facebook and I stumbled across a stat about relationships. The question was “Why do beautiful women put up with the wackest dudes…?” I thought to my self..then I replied..”This is true…I wonder why too…but my take on it is that some of the most BEAUTIFUL women have low self esteem. And when these men approach them it’s because they are showing their ‘representative’. Some men are real slick with it…especially if the women are baring their soul to them initially.. Most women are craving love so badly that they don’t set standards or even have them for that matter and are looking through rose colored glasses…so when these men come along they sound like a dream..and they do everything to hook the women so when that initial phase is over…the real person comes out..by that time feelings are involved and the woman may look at him as an investment and women most often don’t want to lose investments….there’s more but that is a summation of what I see and hear..  I try to school these young ladies..I have been through it…so I know what it is…my generation barely made it..but I feel sooo sorry for these generations that are coming up…no real solid foundations to hold onto…they are just out to get what they can get..” This also brings me to a video of Tina..one half of the gospel duo, Mary Mary; that has gone viral over the last couple of weeks, See Here. It shows her being caught up in a moment of rage over her husband’s cheating affairs. At first I was judgemental because I couldn’t understand how could someone of that stature air out her dirty laundry on reality tv..after all it’s a little different than some of the other reality shows that I have seen (we’ll save that for another day). The truth is I’m glad that she did because it erases some of the stereotypes that women in the gospel world face in their own personal lives. Most people forget that yet they speak in tongues, and sing you to life; they also deal with some of the same issues that we normal folk deal with. I think the problem of putting them on a pedestal alienates them from having real feelings, real issues, etc. The problem is not having the issue, but the reaction that you have to the issue. Yes we know in church the we are taught to forgive, love thy neighbor, turn the other cheek…but when issues arise do we really seek the face of God? Or do our natural carnal selves kick in? The Bible speaks of having on the full armor of God…but in times of hurt and pain do we really? I think part of the problem is that we as humans are constantly evolving…each generation has its own coping mechanism to the changing systems that preceded them…and setting their own individualism at the same time….it’s the survival of the fittest….All in all in the process of evolution..what happens externally happens internally as well… Perhaps there is a change in “role” dynamics? Are there undercurrents of feminism displayed in the raising of fatherless men? Hence the term “b%$#&a!#ness” ? Or…or is it the Freudian theory that references that men are attracted to women that resemble (features, mannerisms) their mothers, and women are attracted to men that resemble (features, mannerisms) their fathers?  Are men and women upholding the standards of their parents? Well what happens if there is lacking on either side of the equation? Is there a missing quotient? Do we just add in the factor that’s missing? Or do we look for examples and mimic them from our “community”

Watching this video, I can actually say that I’ve been there. I’ve been broken down to a level this extreme. Maybe even more extreme. I don’t care how strong you are. If you love a person (think you are in love), then you will go through hell and hell some more. Most women are programmed from a young age to stick by their man, the more you stick by him, he will change.That’s not true unless he wants to change. I can actually say that I don’t have that baggage anymore. I left that type of relationship a long time ago. So any man that I date or have a relationship with in this present day, I will not allow him to break me down to that level. It’s a mutual thing. If you love me and adore me then it is reciprocated wholeheartedly. No games, no half-assed attempts, and no side pieces.

What are your thoughts?

Shanell Monique is a Licensed Cosmetologist with over a decade of experience. She is Editor-in-Chief of Enticing Resultz Magazine, Hair Artist with Glam elite Enterprise, also a Published, Avant-Garde, Freelance Hairstylist, Educator and former Salon Owner of nine years, Nurse for 15 years. For more info read about her Here 

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07May/15
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My Story: How I Survived

MarquettaMay 21, 2012 was the day that I received the most devastating news of my life. Out of the three breast biopsies performed one came back positive for breast cancer. Denial set in, I kept thinking this could not possibly be true. “I’m a child of God and something like this could not possibly happen to me” is what I kept thinking. No one in my family had ever been diagnosed with cancer, I am the first of nine siblings. Not even my parents or grandparents ever faced this disease. Cancer does not discriminate. My diagnosis came at the age 54 and I was employed as a school bus driver for FWISD.  I had been witness to several coworkers suffering with the same diagnoses not even realizing I would have to do some of the same things they were doing including losing my hair. Thank God for my pastor, my children, and my church family because without their support and prayers this journey would have had a very different outcome. One of the hardest things I had to do was tell my daughters because this disease would not only impact my life but theirs also. I love them so much, My daughters suggested I get a second opinion and paid for me to go to a Holistic Doctor. Needless to say when the Dr showed me the cancer cells that was in just one drop of blood under a microscope, my very own prayer partner and sister in Christ Debrah witnessed it as well, and at that moment I felt closer to death than I had ever been in my whole life. So it was established that the cancer was real and that I was in a battle for not just my natural life but my spiritual life as well. A true test of faith. Through faith, hope, and trust in Almighty God and the words of wisdom spoken to me by a great and wise woman of God Pastor Jackson I am still here. I survived surgery, chemo, radiation and hormone therapy. To God be the Glory.

Marquetta G

 

This is one of the stories from Women With Gifts. Women WIth Gifts recently started and I Survived Movement as a platform for people to tell their experience with breast cancer, domestic violence and sexual abuse. These stories are REAL stories that give an account of either sexual abuse, domestic violence or breast cancer. It is our goal to share as many stories as possible in order to stop domestic violence and sexual abuse and start healing our nation. If you would like to tell your story please email it to survivors@womenwithgifts.com. In order to duplicate or re~publish any article from our website you must have the written consent from the founder of Women With Gifts.

See pictures below of our breast cancer survivor. She was one of our honorees at our recent I Survived Gospel Concert that celebrates survivors of breast cancer, domestic violence and sexual abuse. She is a survivor!

 

 

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15Mar/15
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Married Young

Have you ever sat back and asked yourself; Why me? Why do I have to go through this? But why not you, whatever situation you going through, you are not the only one. We all have been through a test and have to be strong and pass that test so we can turn it into a testimony. The Lord will use his people so they can be a witness to others but it’s up to us to accept that challenge. Yes, I know it can be hard to tell people what you went/going through but you might actually be helping that person as well as yourself. As a young black married woman with children I have been through many situations in my life.

I got married at the age of 18 years old, straight out of high school and into a marriage. When I tell people I got married at that age they sometimes look at me a little funny because that’s a young age to be married. But honestly, I actually enjoy being married to my husband. Not all days are bad days. We have had some good days as well. “Wow, you didn’t have any time to explore with others or do what you wanted to do”, as some would say to me. I know I got married young and I love him and he loves me. It has been plenty of times I wanted to get a divorce and go my own way but then I realized, it’s not worth losing a good man that loves me and treats me with respect. Yes, we have had our battles and our marriage was not all peaches and cream. “It’s cheaper to keep them” LOL, but we got through every moment by the grace of God. See my friend, it’s good to have the Lord on your side to help you through all your problems.

The Lord should be in every situation in your life, but to have him in your marriage is a blessing because it takes three to make a marriage work: the LORD, you and your spouse.  You see, without God and lots of prayers I wouldn’t be with my husband today. Of course everyone makes a few mistakes in their relationship, whether it’s big or small and if you love that person then you will try to work out whatever the situation may be. You have to remember it’s you two against the world.

I have been married for a long time to the same man and we still find each other attractive. Many times couples don’t find their mate attractive anymore because that person gained a few pounds, lost some hair, or someone at their job showed them a little attention, etc. That saying that goes “whatever you did to get her, you have to keep doing to keep her”, well me I don’t really care for that because I’m the type that enjoy different things to spice up my marriage/relationship. Now how can you and your husband enjoy yourselves with children? Good question, just because a couple have children does not mean they have to stop being a couple. Yes, children can put a hold on many things in life but there are ways to get quality time with your mate you have to set a date. My husband and I still enjoy life with and without our two children. Being a mother and a wife is a tough job and at times I feel like throwing in the towel but to look at their beautiful faces I wouldn’t trade them for nothing in this world. I have to make sure both parties are happy and taken care of. Not only do I have to have time for them I have to have time for me as well. Which can be difficult because “a woman’s job is never done”, but we as women have to take care of ourselves and have some alone time.

So if you are married or in a relationship and you feel like you are the only couple having problems, no worries because EVERY relationship has its ups and downs. It takes both to get through those problems and of course God. I always say “A relationship is 100/100 not 50/50 because 50 is only half and you can’t have a half relationship.” Even if you’re not in a relationship you will have issues that you will go through in life and the Lord will help you out in that situation if you just trust and believe that he will. So keep your head up and stay strong. God will always take care of his people.

 

 

Sincerely,

Mrs. Married young

Guest Columnist/ Enticing Resultz Magazine

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15Mar/15
Enticing Resultz

How Can You Say You Love Me?

How can you say you love me when you decided to choose drugs over your own child? How can you say that you will always be there for me when you decided to choose drugs over you own child.

There is not a day that goes by that I wish I had the answers to the questions in my head.  I had a father that saw me whenever he found time to visit and when he did, it was only for a few minutes then he was gone.

Going up in a single family home as the only child is what it was like for me. Even though I did know who my father was and what he looked liked, I always wondered why he didn’t ever spend a lot of time with me. You know that father -daughter time, like teach me how to ride a bike or how to tie my shoes, etc…  But he wasn’t that kind of father. I was lucky enough to see him at least twice a year if that. I was lucky enough if he even called me to wish me a happy birthday.  I got the calls that I am on my way to come get you but never showed up.

I have gone through years without even hearing from him. Not knowing if he even cared to know what I was doing. He missed all the important events in my life like my graduation for instance for his habit. But the time that I did see him it was, “I’m going to get myself together”…blah blah blah…I don’t know how many times I have heard that song before.  I’m like yeah whatever to myself. You see, no matter what he had said or done I would always show him respect.

There hasn’t been a time that I can remember, that I have been around him and he’s doing his drugs right there in front of me like I am nothing. Thinking to myself like WTF?!?! He said he was going to get clean, but now you’re asking me for money when you have never given me anything.

The bitterness that I had towards my father was unreal. I just couldn’t believe that he chose to do drugs over me.  At the time I didn’t understand it, it wasn’t until I got older that I realized my father was sick; they say that it’s up to that person to make up in their mind to stop doing drugs. How can I say that he never even tried to stop? But all I do know that he choose that over me.

The anger that I felt know that my father wasn’t there to teach me how a real man is suppose to treat a lady, sometimes I wonder that if he had been in my life full time or even part time instead of prn (as needed) I wouldn’t have been the person I was growing up to be, looking for love in all the wrong places. 

It took a long time for me to forgive my father for not being in my life the way that I would have wanted him to be. There are still times that I wish he was still here to continue on this journey with me and to see what all I have accomplished and in the process of doing.  I still turned out doing better than what I expected myself. Even though he was never there I had a father who was and still is watching over me. He has been blessing me since I was in the womb.  He was there to take away all my hurt, my pain, my disappointments, and all my shame away.  I may have left him but MY GOD never left me. 

Even though my father has passed away, there’s not a day that goes by that I wish I could have asked him why he chose drugs over me. But at the end I still loved him for giving me life and I will always respect him because he was my father.

Sincerely Ms. Retort

Guest Columnist/ Enticing Resultz Magazine

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03Nov/14
Sierra

Cancer Didn’t Survive, but I Did!

My name is Sierra and I’m 28 years old. I’m married to my best friend and one of my many supporters. I have two handsome boys. I would like to share my tragedy, testimony, and my triumph.

On August 20, 2013 I was diagnosed with a rare breast tumor that came back as malignant it’s called Phyllodes tumor. It’s rare because it cannot be treated with chemotherapy nor radiation, it is a tumor that must continuously be cut out leaving you victim to constant surgery because did I mention, it grows rapidly? Even if cut with a larger margin of healthy breast tissue/fat. The day that I had my first surgery was on August 20th, however two weeks post-op; still with stitches in place. My breast specialist discovered it had grown back again in just two weeks, my doctor performed emergency surgery and suggested in the meantime to do BRCA1 test. This is a genetic mutation test for breast cancer and ovarian cancer. I went along with my specialist’s suggestion only to get the most unfortunate news. I was positive for the gene not only that, I was in the top 50th percentile. I was really discouraged at this point but I knew God had this all under control at least in that moment. At this point, due to my second emergency operation I was hoping and praying for the best. Thinking the worst was over because that had taken a lot of surrounding tissue out of my left breast plus with test results I was recommended to just come every 3 months for MRI, mammogram, and ultrasound. However, I followed everything they told me and showed up to every appointment, but I just kept getting negative reports.

On one particular visit my doctor nonchalantly asked “how would you feel if you had to get a mastectomy?” I could hardly swallow. I was like a deer caught in headlights. I was so puzzled, she then stated “you don’t have to answer me now but keep it in the back of your mind because things just aren’t looking good. Every time you come you never get any good news. ” I told her I wouldn’t need it, God had healed me and she just smiled. Some 6 months had gone by at this point and I was back at the doctor with guess what? A new lump in my right breast and also the one in the left breast had returned. The tears begin to roll down my face and my faith had been extremely shaken and I thought God was punishing me. My doctor sent me over to the radiologist to get what’s called a core needle biopsy were they go in and take tissue sample to check for cancerous cells. Well my report had come back and they couldn’t really tell what was in my body because some of the tissue was funny colored and textured weirdly. It was something they had never dealt with before. I was told that I needed to meet her, my radiologist and their nurses to figure out our next move. I knew it wasn’t good then….here we are July 2014 and I’m still fighting this monster. I arrived to the office on July 1st and was directed to an office that kind of reminded me of a meeting room and not the usual check up room. As everyone greeted me she had a file of my diagnosis, test results, and etc from caring for me for almost a year. As everyone was staring at me with a great deal of despair in their eyes, I remember her explaining everything!!! She said “SIERRA I’M SORRY HONEY BUT WE ARE GOING TO HAVE TO PERFORM A BILATERAL DOUBLE MASTECTOMY …. WE FEEL THIS WOULD BE YOUR BEST AND SAFEST SOLUTION BECAUSE THE NEXT 5 years aren’t looking so well for you based off of all of your results.” Dazed and confused, I could not swallow again. I stated, ok! Well how soon would I have to do this? She said “the next 2 weeks because we can’t leave those tumors in there.” During the next 2 weeks, my life would change forever. My surgery was scheduled for July 16th at 6:00 a.m. It would be a 6 hour procedure, but I made it through and here’s where God began to speak to me. My first week was so depressing and I was so angry with God. I questioned him over and over. I cried until my eyes were swollen shut because I couldn’t believe that the God I served and loved would allow this. But He really does love me because after they removed my breasts they sent them down to pathology for testing, when the report came back I had 6 different types of tumors in my breasts that they couldn’t see due to my breasts being dense because I am so young. That is when I began to experience God in a supernatural way, I could hear Him speak loud and clearly he said “I love you but I wanted to show you everything isn’t what it looks like and I’m operating on you beneath the surface.” I thought really Lord beneath the surface huh? Well He actually spoke so clearly I was literally abled to write it on paper, which I turned into a poem, something I had never done before. See even though He took the very thing that I needed as a woman to nurture her baby, God was showing me I will take and I have already wore your disease. I want you to rest in my bosom (the bosom of Jesus) and I will nurture you back to health spiritually. So even though my body was physically experiencing this process God was spiritually operating on me as well. In this time I have discovered so much about myself as a child of God. My faith was enlarged because of this journey. I couldn’t pay or buy my way out, or even call my parents to fix it. He literally had me in a position to only trust in Him. I was forced to listen to Him because I couldn’t move. He taught me how to find value in small things, love what’s misunderstood, and accept the rejected as well as, not to be surprised by who and what he chooses to use to bless me. I am currently under reconstruction from the inside out but through it all I’ve learned to trust in Jesus and depend on him! My praise and worship is sincere because this entire time I’ve been off work but God always makes a way for every bill to get paid. Imagine! Not working for a year.

If I could give any advice to anybody it would be: always perform self breast exams at home before your monthly cycle and after. Always keep up with mammograms. MRI’s and ultrasounds always follow up. Last and certainly not least TRUST IN THE LORD with all your heart because His ways are not our ways and if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans because he already worked it out. Thank you for reading this I hope it blessed someone, because my journey has surely been a blessing to me and those around me. Isaiah 53:5

 

Sierra

Contributing Writer/Enticing Resultz Magazine

 

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20Oct/14
Brandi N Anderson

Right On Time

We live in a society where things are moving quickly. Technology has evolved so much in the last 10 yrs. So much so, that multitasking and being at two different places at the same time is actually possible if you have a smart phone capable of video conferencing or phone conferencing.  This is the “microwave” society, we expect things instantly and it better be right too!  So far through my 14 yrs of being an adult, I’ve experience so many things. Emotional roller coasters, physical changes, mental stresses and definitely spiritual growth.  When I think about the things I’ve gone through and how I had to “wait” for them to run their course, all I can say is…but God!  You see, I had to understand that each and everything that I went through had a purpose and although I didn’t understand at the time why those events happened in my life, I now understand that God was preparing me for His purpose and for the right season. We can’t rush God when it comes to getting our desires, the desires that He planted in us. Everything has a season and everything happens for a reason. We don’t have to always know the next move, and when it comes to God, He works in a way where we will not know the next move until we develop a more intimate relationship with Him. He wants us to trust in Him to the point He is the first on our minds when we awake and the last we speak to before we sleep. God will not accept a quick text message, a quick Facebook shout out, and all the other quick tools we use to satisfy our human needs for affection.  God desires more from us and once we give Him more then we will understand God’s timing.  God’s timing is everything, look back on the things that you’ve gone through in your life and consider how much you’ve grown.  Some of you I am sure have grown more spiritual after going through some things and that may very well be the reason you went through it. All things work together for the good that loves God. If you have something special to do for the kingdom, trust and know that God will not let you go, He will allow you to go through some things in order to grow you for His purpose. Remember people, your life does not belong to you but it belongs to the one who gave you life and from the one who can take it away. We often heard our parents say that because in theory they did give us life but our Father in heaven is the ultimate giver of life and He has the final say on when it begins and when it ends.  So with that said, stop rushing through life thinking that you have all the answers and that God is taking too long in answering your prayer. Maybe He has already answered your prayer but you are too busy multitasking and living your life 5 days ahead of today instead of sitting back and allowing your mind to rest and your spirit to connect with the Lord so that you can hear His answer, His instructions and His advice on the things that you desire help in. God takes His time because He doesn’t makes mistakes. You are precious to Him and He wants you to have a full and blessed life in Him. Develop that personal relationship with God and enjoy His timing, trust me, it’s worth the wait.

Brandi Anderson

Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine

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07Oct/14
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Ambition

“Every great dream come true requires ambition. A strong will, determination, dedication, and self-discipline are the foundation for it. We all have a secret passion. An intent desire to achieve, a driving force from which ambition unfurls. Let the vision painted upon the canvas of your mind depict the conception which will come to be.”

K.L. Presha’

Self-Inspire: Imagine and take a glimpse into the future of tomorrow, bring to life a change and treat the mind to wonder of surprise. Turning a blind eye to one’s own soul continuum day to day without vision is a life without purpose and meaning. It’s as if somewhere in life there was a self inflicted prison initiated suffering many to succeed nothingness. Showing no mental stimulation towards ambition, many accept the safety of just being; to just exist. Being fashioned of intellect, one should always think, imagine and dream saturating the mind with idea. All souls are indigenous to this life; therefore, what one is capable of achieving so then is another. Why are you not aware of the gifts you possess? Why do you not believe? What lies do the enemy whisper in your ear? For it is this reason that you do not succeed. One’s ambition unenthusiastically pursued demolishes the appetite by degrees of succession. And so it is told in truth, if one does not exhibit interest in his own life then no other shall regard an inquiry. Most are content watching others from the sideline of life easily amused and impressed, influenced deeply in the mind, as that one’s God given gift is displayed to the world. The same is the spirit of many destined to repeat their actions from the beginning of time and do nothing. For it is not that they should thirst for and so shall achieve nothing till eternity. To those who are of the Father, express thyself within the law of God and by His will acknowledging the authority of God. It is not to become like God but that which is pleasing to God, less you find yourself depraved.
K.L. Presha’
Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine
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