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13Sep/15
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Book Reader’s Spotlight: Angie Christine

Angie Christine was born in Brooklyn New York to the Late Johnny Hitt Jr. and the late Betty Hitt. As a youngster Angie would gather her friends at her house and tell them stories she would make up on her own. She appeared in a commercial for a local record store in Manhattan called Disco Mat back in the late 70’s. As she got older and went to high school she was performing, and writing for her dramatic arts class at Sheepshead Bay highschool in Brooklyn Ny. After college she joined the NYPD police force in Brooklyn and decided to leave New York after 9-11 . Divorced and raising a daughter, Angie moved to Newport News Virginia to start a new life. Angie Chirstine decided to write her first book after the closing of her employment at Circuit City. In 2009, “The Fireman” was released and everyone loved the story. She decided to release another book titled Opposites Attract. In April 2010, she and a friend headed south to Atlanta Georgia to the Monique Show where she presented the actress and talk show host with copies of her books. Monique gave Angie the biggest hug and shedded a tear because of the fact that Angie added her to her dedication page in her second book. Her 3rd book titled “Tantalizing Pleasures” is also a big hit.
 
“Tantalizing Pleasures” is an erotic story of 2 people who fell in love for the right reasons. Are you ready to be tantalized?  Rebecca was raised in the midwest and decided to move to the Big Apple…..New York City after she graduated from college. Rebecca is a stock broker working at the famous Wall Street stock exchange building. One morning a tall Marine who had come back from Iraq came there to ring the morning bell. He was a hero that saved some of his squad from death. That morning was the best thing that happened to Rebecca and from that day on the rest was nothing but the greatest love affair anyone would die for.  

Angie Christine is currently working on her 4th book titled “The Fireman’s Revenge”, which is the sequel to the first book “The Fireman”
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SM: Hello, how are you? Thank you for taking the time out of your busy schedule to share with our audience.

AC: Thank you so much for having me as a guest.

SM: How would you describe your experience as a writer? You left your career as a Nypd officer to pursue a writing career, how do they compare?

AC: I love every aspect of being an author. Sometimes it can be challenging to convince people to purchase your book when you’re not out there in the social media like Terry McMillan or Steve Harvey or even Steven King. No one would have any 2nd thoughts to purchasing their books because of who they are…….people are starting to get to know Angie Christine little by little now. Once someone let’s me know how great my book was i would tell them to go spread the word. Word of mouth travels faster than mail.

SM: Which book to date would you say is your favorite, and why?

AC: Well first and foremost the Bible is my first love. In fact i still carry the Bible my parents recieved from the church that married them 54 years ago, but my favorite book of what I wrote is Tantalizing Pleasures. This book is my 3rd. The reason why I picked this book is because I see alot of myself in the character name Rebecca in the book.

SM: Have you shared any of your revelations in any of your book? Have any of them been based on a true story?

AC: Well in Tantalizing Pleasures the main character Rebecca fell madly in love with a Sgt. who was a Marine. I once dated a military guy but he was in the Army. I changed the branch because I love Marines….lol.   The story had bits and pieces of the military guy that I dated but I won’t reveal which ones. Tantalizing Pleasures wasn’t based on a true story though.

SM: What was your experience like on the Monique Show?  Is she as down to earth in person as she is on the big screen?

AC: Seeing Monique was a dream come true. I am such a big fan of hers and I think they need to put her show back on television. Alot of people can relate to her. She didn’t grow up rich and she battled a weight problem. The media always thinks skinny is better, but she flipped the script to show the world that she is just as talented as someone who is skinny.

SM: Tell me about your 4th book The Firemans Revenge.

AC: It’s about a guy who is a seeking revenge of his brother’s death. This book is part 2 to the first book I wrote back in 2009 titled; “The Fireman”. Everyone told me that I needed to follow up and do a sequel, so began writing and it was released in June 2015.

SM: Any last remarks?

AC: Yes! To everyone that’s reading this interview right now please follow your dreams. Don’t let anyone discourage you from anything you feel is right. Achieve all you can and don’t settle for less. The most important thing is……ALWAYS KEEP GOD FIRST IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU WILL GO ALL THE WAY.

SM: Contact info?

AC: Facebook:  Author Angie Christine

Gmail at nypdblue88@gmail.com

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Shanell Monique is a Licensed Cosmetologist with over a decade of experience. She is Editor-in-Chief of Enticing Resultz Magazine, Hair Artist and Makeup Artist with Glam Elite Enterprise, also a Published, Avant-Garde, Freelance Hairstylist, Educator and former Salon Owner of nine years, Nurse for 15 years. For more info read about her Here PhotoGrid_1441594406723

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01Jul/15
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Why Do We Have To Go Through These Changes?

I was scrolling through my news feed on Facebook and I stumbled across a stat about relationships. The question was “Why do beautiful women put up with the wackest dudes…?” I thought to my self..then I replied..”This is true…I wonder why too…but my take on it is that some of the most BEAUTIFUL women have low self esteem. And when these men approach them it’s because they are showing their ‘representative’. Some men are real slick with it…especially if the women are baring their soul to them initially.. Most women are craving love so badly that they don’t set standards or even have them for that matter and are looking through rose colored glasses…so when these men come along they sound like a dream..and they do everything to hook the women so when that initial phase is over…the real person comes out..by that time feelings are involved and the woman may look at him as an investment and women most often don’t want to lose investments….there’s more but that is a summation of what I see and hear..  I try to school these young ladies..I have been through it…so I know what it is…my generation barely made it..but I feel sooo sorry for these generations that are coming up…no real solid foundations to hold onto…they are just out to get what they can get..” This also brings me to a video of Tina..one half of the gospel duo, Mary Mary; that has gone viral over the last couple of weeks, See Here. It shows her being caught up in a moment of rage over her husband’s cheating affairs. At first I was judgemental because I couldn’t understand how could someone of that stature air out her dirty laundry on reality tv..after all it’s a little different than some of the other reality shows that I have seen (we’ll save that for another day). The truth is I’m glad that she did because it erases some of the stereotypes that women in the gospel world face in their own personal lives. Most people forget that yet they speak in tongues, and sing you to life; they also deal with some of the same issues that we normal folk deal with. I think the problem of putting them on a pedestal alienates them from having real feelings, real issues, etc. The problem is not having the issue, but the reaction that you have to the issue. Yes we know in church the we are taught to forgive, love thy neighbor, turn the other cheek…but when issues arise do we really seek the face of God? Or do our natural carnal selves kick in? The Bible speaks of having on the full armor of God…but in times of hurt and pain do we really? I think part of the problem is that we as humans are constantly evolving…each generation has its own coping mechanism to the changing systems that preceded them…and setting their own individualism at the same time….it’s the survival of the fittest….All in all in the process of evolution..what happens externally happens internally as well… Perhaps there is a change in “role” dynamics? Are there undercurrents of feminism displayed in the raising of fatherless men? Hence the term “b%$#&a!#ness” ? Or…or is it the Freudian theory that references that men are attracted to women that resemble (features, mannerisms) their mothers, and women are attracted to men that resemble (features, mannerisms) their fathers?  Are men and women upholding the standards of their parents? Well what happens if there is lacking on either side of the equation? Is there a missing quotient? Do we just add in the factor that’s missing? Or do we look for examples and mimic them from our “community”

Watching this video, I can actually say that I’ve been there. I’ve been broken down to a level this extreme. Maybe even more extreme. I don’t care how strong you are. If you love a person (think you are in love), then you will go through hell and hell some more. Most women are programmed from a young age to stick by their man, the more you stick by him, he will change.That’s not true unless he wants to change. I can actually say that I don’t have that baggage anymore. I left that type of relationship a long time ago. So any man that I date or have a relationship with in this present day, I will not allow him to break me down to that level. It’s a mutual thing. If you love me and adore me then it is reciprocated wholeheartedly. No games, no half-assed attempts, and no side pieces.

What are your thoughts?

Shanell Monique is a Licensed Cosmetologist with over a decade of experience. She is Editor-in-Chief of Enticing Resultz Magazine, Hair Artist with Glam elite Enterprise, also a Published, Avant-Garde, Freelance Hairstylist, Educator and former Salon Owner of nine years, Nurse for 15 years. For more info read about her Here 

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30Jun/15
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Identity Mistake or Identity Fraud?: NAACP Dolezal

In the exploitation of Rachel Dolezal, the former NAACP President, a new word is introduced “transracial”; the question now becomes, can we all just up and change our race if we wanted? The answer to that question is no, so that word becomes obsolete in the Black communities.

Cultural identity is described as the identity or feeling of belonging to, as part of the self-conception and self-perception to nationality, ethnicity, religion, social class, generation, locality and any kind of social group that have its own distinct culture. This is something that Black people have struggled with since our ancestors were brought over to this country. It is no secret that there are individuals outside the Black race who may identify with our culture and some individuals who would like to identify with the Black culture, so they study the history and trans-generational aspect of the Black race.

Wanting to identify and studying the Black culture is not the problem; Dolezal identifying with the Black race is not a problem. The problem exist when the boundaries of truth, trust, and justice is violated. The problem is when she intentionally lied about herself being raised as a Black woman for many years. She has potentially stolen the identity and occupied the space of a real Black woman who has struggled in this country because of the color of her skin.

NAACP has supported Dolezal through this scandal as they should but the question remains did they know her race; and if so, did they know that she was profiting from passing herself off as a Black woman? The issues that surround this uproar is that Dolezal has been occupying a space of a real Black woman sharing her story, she has potentially occupied an opportunity and jobs that a qualified Black woman could have fulfilled, she has potentially damaged the trust and relationships with the NAACP and the people, she has increased the tension that exist between races. This is not due to her identifying with the Black race, but because of her lying about who she was.

Black people have a hard time already being accepted and to have someone intentionally pass themselves off as Black just to be accepted is deceiving and can be looked at as infiltrating. She may have served as a great President with the NAACP, but at what cost? What are your thoughts and concerns?

Marquetta Turner has her MSW from Wayne State University. She is affiliated with various organizations that support communities and fight against social injustice. These organizations are National Association of Social Workers (NASW), National Association of Black Social Worker (NABSW),  Suicide Prevention at WSU and, former Network (V.P.). She’s been a temporary voice of reason co-host to online radio show at See Here and an ongoing motivational speaker to a Social Work writing workshop. She is experienced, working with hospice patients, the mental health population and presently working with the Family First Program providing family preservation services and resources at Black Family Development as an intern. Marquetta is working toward completing her Autobiography as well as developing her own non-profit organization within the city of Detroit.

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15Mar/15
Enticing Resultz

Married Young

Have you ever sat back and asked yourself; Why me? Why do I have to go through this? But why not you, whatever situation you going through, you are not the only one. We all have been through a test and have to be strong and pass that test so we can turn it into a testimony. The Lord will use his people so they can be a witness to others but it’s up to us to accept that challenge. Yes, I know it can be hard to tell people what you went/going through but you might actually be helping that person as well as yourself. As a young black married woman with children I have been through many situations in my life.

I got married at the age of 18 years old, straight out of high school and into a marriage. When I tell people I got married at that age they sometimes look at me a little funny because that’s a young age to be married. But honestly, I actually enjoy being married to my husband. Not all days are bad days. We have had some good days as well. “Wow, you didn’t have any time to explore with others or do what you wanted to do”, as some would say to me. I know I got married young and I love him and he loves me. It has been plenty of times I wanted to get a divorce and go my own way but then I realized, it’s not worth losing a good man that loves me and treats me with respect. Yes, we have had our battles and our marriage was not all peaches and cream. “It’s cheaper to keep them” LOL, but we got through every moment by the grace of God. See my friend, it’s good to have the Lord on your side to help you through all your problems.

The Lord should be in every situation in your life, but to have him in your marriage is a blessing because it takes three to make a marriage work: the LORD, you and your spouse.  You see, without God and lots of prayers I wouldn’t be with my husband today. Of course everyone makes a few mistakes in their relationship, whether it’s big or small and if you love that person then you will try to work out whatever the situation may be. You have to remember it’s you two against the world.

I have been married for a long time to the same man and we still find each other attractive. Many times couples don’t find their mate attractive anymore because that person gained a few pounds, lost some hair, or someone at their job showed them a little attention, etc. That saying that goes “whatever you did to get her, you have to keep doing to keep her”, well me I don’t really care for that because I’m the type that enjoy different things to spice up my marriage/relationship. Now how can you and your husband enjoy yourselves with children? Good question, just because a couple have children does not mean they have to stop being a couple. Yes, children can put a hold on many things in life but there are ways to get quality time with your mate you have to set a date. My husband and I still enjoy life with and without our two children. Being a mother and a wife is a tough job and at times I feel like throwing in the towel but to look at their beautiful faces I wouldn’t trade them for nothing in this world. I have to make sure both parties are happy and taken care of. Not only do I have to have time for them I have to have time for me as well. Which can be difficult because “a woman’s job is never done”, but we as women have to take care of ourselves and have some alone time.

So if you are married or in a relationship and you feel like you are the only couple having problems, no worries because EVERY relationship has its ups and downs. It takes both to get through those problems and of course God. I always say “A relationship is 100/100 not 50/50 because 50 is only half and you can’t have a half relationship.” Even if you’re not in a relationship you will have issues that you will go through in life and the Lord will help you out in that situation if you just trust and believe that he will. So keep your head up and stay strong. God will always take care of his people.

 

 

Sincerely,

Mrs. Married young

Guest Columnist/ Enticing Resultz Magazine

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01Dec/14
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You Must Grow, Then Move On

I hear you…just faintly.  Indirectly speaking, hoping that you are speaking  loudly enough so your tone can resonate directly towards me. Nope….I won’t….I’m not turning toward you. Can’t cater to anything for you. You must finish, fix, or pray your way out of that current situation.

If  I’m hearing this correctly,  you married into a situation thats left you homeless? When you speak of homeless, you speak of not having the place of solitude due to her boldly taking over your sense of solace. Smothered into years of distress and you think I wanna hear that mess? Find your way and progress.

Please dont try and run game on me with that, “It aint like that no more, she gots to go”…mess. Holla at me when you’ve let go, moved on, renewed your mental state, and learned who you are…the you, you’ve become after learning from, “what you claim to have been”, such a terrible experience.

 

Lena Holliday

Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine

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03Nov/14
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MEN VIEWS ON WOMEN AND RELATIONSHIPS

 

When it comes to relationships, everyone has a preference, a checklist, or a set of standards that they feel that their significant other should possess. However, I wonder if men sometimes set womens’ standards too high, are they settling, does the person who set these standards possess the same values that they want in a mate, or are they shallow in their expectations of a mate, that the one you are looking for may have been right up under your nose all along but value what she look like more than her personality? I have asked 30 men ranging from blue collar workers, white collar professionals, professional athletes, clinical professionals, entrepreneurs, authors, entertainers and religious leaders, etc. 12 basic questions on their views of women and relationships. Some of the answers I received were very interesting and stood out more than others which I felt were pertinent. However, all responses were recorded and viewed just as valuable as the others. Although I have mentioned some of the background of the careers these men are in, I vowed not to reveal the names due to confidentiality. I often run a circle of various people and sometimes I have the opportunity to join in a platform of dialogue about relationships with especially with men, along with read material, and multiple media feedback on relationships as well. So I did this survey for a few reasons, 1) I often hear women being bashed and/or blamed for relationship failures 2) I want to take a peek inside of men and see what they really feel and think of women, to give women more clarity and understanding and 3) to give women the opportunity to respond to how they may feel concerning the responses these men have given. I also talk to my ladies and we often complain about not finding the right man or there are not enough good men and most of the good men are already taken, maybe this can shed some light on that stigma.

 

These are the questions I asked:

 

1. Name 3 things that you feel are great characteristics in a good woman?

 

Honesty, intelligent, good cook, keep home clean, good personality, good communicator, open minded, confident, good energy, have direction in life, wholesome, organized, not promiscuous, patient, unselfish, compassionate, gentle, happy/pleasant, loving, warm, trusting spirit, genuine, loyal, compromising, cooperative, inspirational, nurturing, God-fearing, independent, great character

 

2. Name 3 things you dislike most about a woman?

 

Loud, smoker, follower, nasty attitude, talk too much, lack of effort in appearance, weight gain, still talking after I’m angry, use profanity, negative/pessimistic attitude and actions, not spontaneous, lazy sex, liar, violent, compare self to men, act like she don’t need a man, no ambition (lack of goals), don’t value relationships, living in the past, dishonest, vulgar, disloyal, controlling, uncompromising, socially and economically independent, carelessness, unsupportive, too opinionated, no sense of humor, very dependent

 

3. What qualifies a woman as a lifetime partner “wife”?

Not being able to live without her, have a plan for kids and the future and ready for that, good character and easy to get along with, take care of business, thoughtful and unselfish, if she can cook, clean, and smart, loyalty, good communicator, have my back, good mother, outgoing, respectable, friendship, dependable, have class, good chemistry, similar ideals concerning family and socialization, strong family unit, and blended family unit, same beliefs and value system, equally yoked biblically, compassionate, supportive through trials and tribulations, submissive, not argumentative, talk things out, peacemaker, compromise, good sex, basic domestic abilities, genuine personality, cooperative, respectful, give all mentally and physically, someone that will go through trials and tribulations with, nonjudgmental, God fearing, honest, confident, passionate, funny, commitment, strong, outgoing, funny, intelligent and independent.

 

4. What do you find that most women lack personally and/or professionally?

 

            Compassion and understanding, lack of values, professionalism doesn’t matter, listening skills, self-confidence both personally and professionally, patience, self-composed hold to the “Angry Black Woman”, and proper etiquette professionally, patience, lack the knowledge of what “Real Help” means outside a monetary value, become too independent due to life situations, give up dreams and goals for a man, lack independence, it depends/varies from woman to woman, lack professionalism, humility.

 

5. What do you feel most women lack in a relationship?

 

            Letting go of past hurt/baggage, understanding, thoughtfulness, consistency, trust, compromise, patience, listening skills, emotional displacement, ownership, not knowing self-worth, loyalty, unsure, financially Supportive of a Man.

 

6. What are some turnoffs of a woman?

 

            Don’t take care of self, smoking, obese, not educated, lazy and abuse body, extreme ignorance, disagreeable, physical qualities, lazy in bed, loud mouth, nag, know it all, unmotivated, bad hygiene, lack of self-respect, selfish, unclean, acting like a man, nasty mouth, dressing provocatively, manipulator, no ambition, competitive and envy others, don’t value relationships, negative attitude, controlling, dishonest, no domestic abilities, close minded, loud, bad sex, poor listening skills, sexual easiness (promiscuous), not physically fit, unwilling to learn and be educated in different views, doesn’t like heritage, doesn’t like self, materialistic, argumentative, lack of communication, expect handouts, drama, give up and accept circumstances, lack of intelligence, and varies from woman to woman

 

7. Do you believe in specified gender roles? If so, what role do you believe a woman should play?

 

            Most stated NO, some stated Yes, and a few stated it depends.

 

8. Does physical characteristics matter vs her personality?

            In this portion, majority says that physical characteristics are very important with personality not falling too far behind. Very few stated that personality was more important than the physical, but all would like for a woman to equally to have both attributes. One person in particular stated he would take a little less personality and attitude if she look good.

 

9. Is there a time frame that you date a woman before you decide that you want to be in a committed relationship with her? If so what is the estimated time frame?

 

            For this question all of the men stated that there was no specified time frame. However some went on to say that getting know the person and having mutuality in the direction of the relationship is very important. One also stated that discernment is important.

 

10. What ethical values must a woman possess?

 

            To ride for one own kind first, family oriented, goals, good morals and integrity, Christian morals and values, non-judgmental, respect, honesty, responsibility, self-discipline, compassion, considerate, optimistic, reliable, spirituality, health and fitness, value family, unselfish, respectful, nurturing, education, and being a lady at all times, believe in a supreme being, not flirtatious, cleanliness, Integrity, wisdom, knowing and value the 10 commandments, basics, depends on the culture.

 

11. The qualities that you feel a woman should have do you have them as well.

 

            Majority of the men responded YES to this question. A few stated SOMETIMES. There was one response that made me interpret his answer to be that being raised by a single woman and what women do, that men should possess those qualities, but unsure if men meet the standards and qualities that women have in that aspect. (As a mother)

 

12. Do you feel that women are the root cause of relationship failures? Do you think men contribute in any way? If so how?

 

            Complete answer of NO across the board and says it’s both women and men

 

 

These were the responses from 30 men I asked these same questions. A lot of it was repetitive, but I compiled each response. In Actuality, these men had a lot to say explaining the nature of their answers, but due to timing constraints, man power, and the extensive feedback I received, I had to drastically get straight to the answers for the article. I think that some are looking for the perfect person, but we all come with flaws. That perfect person doesn’t exist, just the perfect one for you.

 

Please women and men please give me your feedback on the questions and answers to this survey.

 

 

 

**Upcoming articles: Sexual Assault Awareness, Breast Cancer Awareness, and Dating someone with children with multiple partners**………….Stay tuned, it’s going to get real interesting. ………

 

Marquetta Turner

Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine

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03Nov/14
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The feeling of LOVE

Take a walk with me, through my past, through my present, and glide into my future. Holding on tight, hoping I wont let go of you. Then leave you hanging on bruised and seeking that feeling you once knew. Are you waiting on me? I told you to keep up change right along with me. Watch me move and not move consistently in sequence when its not balanced with what I’m giving and your giving too. Touching me, just barely. Speaking just a little. Don’t hold me down, it wont be successful. I do my best when there are no limitations. Understand who I am now, then, and will be. I won’t be the same in someone else…cant be. If I’m the same you won’t be completely happy with me because you let go for a reason some time ago. I can’t model you. I can’t model the past experience you’ve been through. I have to be unique in being the new me. Trust in what I show you, hold on as we grow through..let go if you want too. If I come more than once, it’s only because you’ve grown and allowed me too.

 

Lena Holliday

Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine

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07Oct/14
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Dating

Instant relationships seem to be very common these days. The longing to be with someone or to say that you have someone pressures people into these kinds of relationships. Being a single woman in her 30’s can be quite challenging. We are at an age where if we don’t have children, we start to think of having children because of the proverbial “clock” is ticking. However, we also don’t want to settle downwith someone just because he may seem at first glance a great catch. Lately, I have encountered menwho want instant relationships. They seem to want relationships after the first or second date…seriously, they do. I would like to know what happened to the days where you met someone, you went out on a few dates and during the process you actually got to know a person. You had a chance to study their habits as well as actually fall in love with them.

The most recent date I went on felt more like a job interview than anything. but I am happy that it went the way it went. I was able to find out things about him that his “resume” didn’t tell me about like his possessiveness. Let’s just say that I can see why he’s been single for 8 years. I would like to get to know someone naturally and fall in love with them. I don’t want to be rushed through the process. I am not saying that it should take someone a month or 2 to say that you are exclusive with someone, but what I am saying is that a person shouldn’t expect for you to become exclusive after the first date! Learn the difference between being alone and lonely. It is truly a difference and being alone isn’t all bad. Especially if you are settling with someone who doesn’t know you and you don’t really know them. I am not saying that these relationships don’t work, some actually do. However, I know quite a few that are nightmares, they are rosy looking on the outside but dark and dreary on the inside. I enjoy the initial excitement of meeting someone new and in order for me to progress forward with a person I must see something beyond the initial meeting. I will not however commit to someone without getting to know them. Have fun getting to know me. Learn what quirks, figure out some things about me that may annoy you, learn my favorite things, find something in my life that you can gradually include yourself in. Trust, I will do the same for you. But life isn’t a movie or song, The movie or songs are inspire by life’s events but those life event’s usually took some months and years in the making, not 2 dates…lol! Enjoy the process of dating. Finding your life partner can be difficult but what is more difficult is having to end something with someone that you probably shouldn’t have been with in the first place. Slow down and enjoy the process! Your King or Queen is on their way. Get yourself right first in order to attract that person.

Brandi Anderson
Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine
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21Sep/14
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Back to the Basics- A Woman’s Journey

After speaking to quite a few women from different backgrounds, age ranges, and lifestyles, the one thing that they all have in common is the need to feel loved and wanted. About 70 percent of the women I spoke to, stated the biggest issues they faced are finding love and problems with their appearance. Usually these two things are connected in their search. Next comes children and careers, or the lack there of. They seemed to know where they wanted to go, they were just unsure of how to get there. Some of the questions and responses that I asked are posted below.

1. Do you think something is missing from your life? If so, what?
Love and companionship were the most common answers.

2. What are you looking for in a relationship?
Majority of the women said that they were looking for financial stability, respect, & monogamy
A couple stated that they wanted someone to take care of them, pamper and spoil them.

3. Is it possible for women to successfully balance a career and motherhood?
I asked this question because a lot of times, women say they can’t work due to taking care of children in the home that needed them. I received some mixed answers for this question. One young lady said that because she has so many children, working isn’t affordable because of child care issue. I also spoke to another young lady who has the same amount of children, who works everyday sometimes long hours. She stated, “It is sometimes a difficult task, but doable. Plus I am teaching my kids that anything is possible with hard work and compromise.”

4. Do think that we as women open ourselves up for disrespect and neglect?
Of course the majority said no, some were honest enough to admit that we can sometimes leave ourselves vulnerable to such actions in our quest for love.

5. Are you spiritual or have religious beliefs about what a woman’s role is?
A lot of the younger women I spoke with about 90% said they are spiritual but have no idea what a woman’s role was meant to be. These are also the main ones that are single and trying to find a husband, as they say.
I must say that I asked about 15 women of ages ranging from 25-30 years old, and they all pointed in the same direction. Women want it all, but have no idea of how to get it. In my opinion, somewhere, somehow, we have lost or forgotten who we are and how much power (not manipulation) we actually have. Now some of us, know exactly what we can do and achieve, but choose to use these powers for evil which is a major setback for all women.

 

Cepeta Cummings

Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine

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15Sep/14
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May I Take Your Order?

It’s all a twisted game. A circle of events. Twisted Buffets: Sides, Main, and Dessert. Each one sizing up the other thinking there’s competition. Little do the courses understand it’s a game, well played by the one holding the course menu. The sides are multivariate. They mold, bend, beg, and please. The Main has their own ego to please, confidence in all who want them. Blindly thinking they’ll never be replaced. The Desserts are quick bites. Late nights leading to moments not memories.

Choose your course wisely. There are some Main Meals that are definitely appetizing and there are individuals who don’t need the sides and desserts to compensate for their deflated ego.

 

Lena Holliday

Columnist/Enticing Resultz Magazine

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